My boyfriends family demands to see my child instead of asking: Advice?

HELL NAH. U keep that baby and urself away from them while this covid shit is going on. They can FaceTime.

You’re going to want to watch out them trying for rights
Head to Advocates Against Grandparents’ Visitation Rights

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Say no. They don’t get to treat you however they want just because he’s gone. I understand them wanting to see the baby but seeing how their household has had COVID twice, they clearly aren’t taking it seriously and using precautions. I wouldn’t want my child being exposed to it and you’re not selfish for speaking up for yourself and your baby. They either mask up and take it seriously, because it is serious, or they get to face time :woman_shrugging:t2: it is what it is.

Well considering they just lost their son I’m sure they’re more worried about losing more family to things that seemed to have been deemed less concerning lately. Many every day events or sicknesses have taken more lives than covid but aren’t a major concern because covid is the most publicized at the moment. It’s kind of a catch. I would hate to take the chance of being exposed to covid, which you can get exposed to from simple things like your groceries, but I also think of how I’d feel if I lost my child and not being able to love and hold the last physical thing in this world that’s a part of them. I would probably feel more terrified of losing that last part of him due to a car accident, choking or other every day things than I would be the covid so I know I’d personally want to hold them close as tight and as long as possible in case it ever was the last time I could.

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I would not let them see the kids at the moment covid is real and if they can’t listen to you or social distance
And have had it more than once wow madness .
Now I can’t imagine how they are coping with the loss of their son . But that does give them the right to demand or be rude or not follow your rules because you are grieving too and 7 months pregnant so that is in it self super stressful time not to mention a world wide pandemic . No one can fault you for being safe you are now sadly your children’s only perant . I am so sorry for your loss
Don’t let them bully you at all you are their mother .
Tell them that your trying but they will not follow your rules or even talk to you with out it being a demand .
They have lost their manners . And understanding that its your children. You have to protect you and the baby your carrying as well as your child . Because what happens if you get sick .

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I’d wish my daughters grandparents wanted to spend time with her​:joy::woman_shrugging:What you have another person always wishes for. Remember that

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In some states there are grandparents rights. I know in Indiana when I was going through my divorce I asked if I died would my Dad still be able to have visitation. My lawyer told me that if I passed my Dad would get the non-custodial parent’s share of time.

You lost me at grandparents should be grateful for whatever time they get.

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Your child your rules,
They don’t need over night stays and they sure as hell don’t demand to see your child.

If you wanted you don’t have to let them see him at all,
And by the sounds off it I would be only letting them meet at a park and I would definitely be stopping over nights.

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You don’t need to explain yourself, that is your child. Just bluntly say ‘not today, I’ll let you know when is convenient’ and leave it at that.
If they refuse to respect your boundaries, tell them they need to respect them or you just won’t involve them until they can and that includes social distancing.
If they refuse to keep your babies safe, tough, they can’t be near your babies, their health is a much bigger priority than seeing their grandparents.

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Your son is the only special part of their son they have left. They are probably still grieving and might not realize how demanding they are being.

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They just lost their son? I’d give it more time before you let this irritate you

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They’re asking. Just aggressively. Be an adult. Make a schedule. Work together.

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They just lost their son. Maybe it’s just helping them cope with life. I cant image going through this but I could definitely see wanting to be around their kids as a coping mechanism

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where’s your empathy? They lost their son and would like to be involved with the child. Just be an adult and take control of the situation like you would with a kid.
“when are you bringing the baby by today?”
“we are busy today but are free xxx, let’s make plans for then”

But if they don’t follow covid, just respond with, “let’s make a time for a video chat”

This way you’re accommodating them but still protecting and setting boundaries

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Is it that they are asking and your blowing them off constantly. Put yourself in their place that is all they have of their son . And it is your son’s family. I was blessed with an amazing daughter in law I would never have to beg for my grandchildren. Remember they are family also to him.

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Do what you feel is safe for you and your babies. And let them know you will let them know when you feel it is safe

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Grandparents should be grateful for getting to see their own grandson after their son has died? Wow :open_mouth: saying tell me when I can see my grandson is not demanding and your not very understanding to your boyfriends parents after losing their son. Wowow you should be grateful they want to see him wow wow wow your a really hurtful person. Covid or not. Wow that’s so mean I guess your over their son eh

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I would not let them be around your son at all because of their views on COVID-19 you need to protect your son and the hell with what they want.

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They just lost their son. Have a little bit of compassion for that. I get the Covid issue but you sound childish and petty as hell. Meet at a park or a place that would require a mask. Don’t make your son resent you by playing Petty Betty with their link to their son.

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