My husband’s brother currently lives with us. He has a job and also buys copious (and I do mean copious) amounts of clothes at Goodwill and sells them on eBay. My issue over the last couple of years has become that he has so much of this stuff he buys. It has completely taken over any extra space we have in this house. He had a bedroom, a bathroom, and also uses half of our garage. I am expecting our second baby boy in just over six weeks. I am flipping because I have no space for this baby. Nowhere to put his furniture, clothes, anything. I feel awful. My brother-in-law doesn’t clean; we have to beg him to do that. It doesn’t take the trash, many other things to where I’m so fed up. I feel like everyone treats him as though he can’t do anything on his own. He talks about having loads of money saved up, so why doesn’t he get his own place (he has had a girlfriend for nearly two years as well). No one seems to push him to get his own place, and I’m so tired of being the only one who seems to bring it up and vent because it’s our home, and half the time it doesn’t feel like it. My question is simply, what do you suggest? How do I push it more, how do I get my husband and other family members to talk to him about it?
Oh honey!! Your husband needs to address this situation and be on your side as well!! Does he not see what’s going on? Is he just ok with the situation or is he just too lazy to deal with it?
I would have a long heart to heart with the hubby. Voice your opinion an concerns in a calm adult manner… I would also remind them both you dont need the extra stress he is creating. Maybe the 2 of you can sit the brother down for a tough love talk. Sounds to me like he is taking advantage of your kindness. In my experience they will continue to take advantage until you put your foot down… Wishing you the best of luck!
Kick him out. Staying for a short time while he gets his life in order, sure. Staying for years? Time to go.
Tell your husband to talk to his brother. He has to put his foot down and be firm. It is for the best for your family to be able to continue to grow and I can just imagine that the current living situation negatively affects your marriage.
Ummm… years?! Time for the man to fricken fly on his own lol
I’d give my husband an ultimatum and I’d do it quick before this baby gets here or it’s only gonna get worse!! Tell him you better do something or I’m taking the baby and I’m moving outta this shithole and you can live in all this goodwill clutter but I’m not dealing with it!! He needs to clean it up or I’m leaving!!
Time to go. No need to talk to the hubs first. Just flat out tell the grown brother he has to go. And tell him to take all of his stuff too. You are not going to be able to manage when the baby comes if you don’t take charge and make it happen. If you have to, make calls yourself for places to rent and set up meetings for him to see the places. This guy knows its time to go but he is not going to do it unless you tell him
You tell him straight up he has 30 days to move out… he will figure something out…if he’s a a fully functional adult, he can act like one, and quit mooching.
Tell him to GTFO. It’s your house and he needs to GROW UP
You’re house, you’re rules. You’ve already talked to him about, now put your foot down honey. Don’t allow others to walk all over you, especially when you’ve out of your way to make him comfortable. Maybe too comfortable at that, from the kindness of your heart. Now he’s seems to just be taking advantage of his situation.
Clearly he’s smart enough to buy and sell clothes for great profit! That’s a reputable thing to do and brings in good income! He needs to move tf out STAT!
Kick him out, you have a baby on the way.
I’m sorry did you say YEARS?? He been there years??? Girllllll honey. Tell your husband that he has got to goooo.
Umm you need to push it like fast and if you have to go as far as saying if he doesn’t go then you will to show how serious you are then do it but seriously this is beyond ridiculous he’s freeloaded far too long get him to leave either his gf or a freaking motel but it starts with you or he will still be there when the baby is born who is more important him or your child at this point it is time to get him out now
What if this situation is with a father in law? Surely you couldn’t be as cold to kick him out…
I would take every single thing that was lying around and put it in his room on his bed. Along with a note evicting him.
Set the baby’s crib up in your bedroom and when your husband asks why it’s there, tell him his brother is taking up the baby’s space. I’m sure he will talk to his brother after that. Men are visual. A giant crib on his side of the bed will push the point
Give him 2 weeks and tell him after that he has to leave.
Its just that time for him to get his own place. U need the space for your child.