My brother in laws wife cheated and won't let them back in their house: Advice?

Okay, so my brother in law(husbands brother) Is in a jam. His wife is cheating on him with a married man but still lives in the house that my brother in law pays for. She always threatens him with the kids and has even threatened the kids that if they tell daddy about her lover, they will never see him again. She had also told the kids that her married boyfriend broke her heart by getting married. She has four kids with my brother in law. She told him that she would call the cops if he doesn’t stay out of the house he pays for. She told him that he needed to get the kids out of the house this Saturday, but she isn’t allowing him to take them to his family’s house. The only time she wants anything to do with my brother in law is when he gets his paycheck. I knew her from before they got married because our moms were friends. She used to try and rub herself all over her mom’s boyfriends. She has also caused a lot of drama for the family. He has also bought her a brand new car that she runs all over with, and the kids are constantly sick, and when she tears it up or runs out of gas, she just swaps it for the car he drives and runs it all over too. What can he do legally? They haven’t got a divorce yet. I also know someone who has evidence of all this on paper.

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Begin the divorce process and file for custody. I’m in MD, here if custody hasn’t been established in court and both parents are on birth certificate they both have custody. Hope it all works out, sounds like a ugly situation

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Why do adults tell kids adult problems. ? Never understood that. Your BIL needs to take custody of the kids. Kids always paying the price for stupid adults.

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DIVORCE…file ASAP and when it’s filed include custody but make sure kids are with the dad when he files. Sometimes kids will have to stay with the parent that filed first until the 1st crt hearing

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Tell him to start by growing a pair!!! She has no ground to call cops if his house too and stop supporting the cheating whore. No law says he has to, he is choosing to roll over and let her be in control

Idk what state you are in but a little known secret in wisconsin its actually a criminal offense to commit adultery with the proper proof he can file charges against her. Also unless there’s extenuating circumstances most states actually wont split kids from fathers hed probably get 50/50 also if the children are old enough to twill the court about threats made it really doesnt look good for her

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I had a friend who acted like that and it took about two years but the judge flipped custody completely and she lost her children to a her ex-husband because she played games with

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get a lawyer in a hurry

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That’s not your problem.

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Get a divorce and you will be more peaceful when it’s over

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Divorce.custody hearing with dates etc do not continue to pay for car/house.let the lover do it.also tell the cheaters wife whats up

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I’m confused. She doesn’t have the power to kick him out of the house. So tell him to pick up his balls and go back to HIS home. She can call the cops all she wants. They’ll tell her the same thing. Start the divorce process. And is that car she’s driven in his name? Because if it is, he can take that too. If it’s in her name, he’s screwed. Just stop paying for it.

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It’s not rocket science…LAWYER!!!

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Stay out of their business. It will come back to bite you,

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Lawyer up! Get all the info to do it right!! Get a log book…log all the BS. Get a lawyer!!! Get legal advice.

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If he can get the kids and keep them out if her hands that’s real important until court. Explain to the school what is going on. They will sometimes work with you and send you kids homework. If he isnt around she can legally pick them up from friends and family. Consider moving where she don’t know. Try for supervised visits if she has said the kids won’t ever see him again.

Sounds like the brother in law and his wife have some issues. Let them work it out.

Get the kids out of the house and move out!

Document everything on a calendar, record everything she says, not sure what state he is in but in Colorado you can’t keep someone from going into their own home unless there is a domestic violence issue. Fb messages aren’t allowed in court but normal texts are. She can’t withhold children unless there is a custody order either.

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You bil NEEDS a lawyer.

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