My child cries every time they have to go to their dads house: Advice?

Do anybody else’s kids cry when they have to go to their dad’s house? Like my kid will legitimately cry tears when he has to leave to his dad’s, and it makes me sad and concerned every time, but whenever I ask him does anything happen over there, he tells me no. But I’m thinking maybe he hated leaving me. He will always go I don’t wanna leave my mommy and if he doesn’t give me a hug and a kiss he will freak out even more! But I’m wondering does anybody else’s kids do that?

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Well not to freak anyone out, but personal experience, my son did this for months and it turns out that his father was molesting him every time he went over there and so was his girlfriend. Sit him down and see if he will tell you why he doesn’t like going to his dads house. It took a few times of me asking before my son finally told me the truth. Hopefully this isn’t the case for you but it won’t hurt to ask why

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Mine does… she loves her dad, but the divorce has been hard on her… she is with me more so when she does go she gets sad and says I miss mommy with daddy​:pleading_face: breaks my :heart:

My duaghter everytime I take her to her moms it huets my heart

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My husband and I raised our first grandchild till the age of 2 an a half. He’s back with his mom now and 4 yrs old but EVERYSINGLE time he stays with us which is 3 days a week he screams when we have to take him to his mom. Not little cries, screams I not go to mamas I stay with nana. It’s always stressed me but once he’s there and I leave he’s fine. Breaks my heart everytime though

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I was like this as a kid. I just liked being with my mom. I was a total mommas girl. Once I got over my mom leaving it was fine! I absolutely loved spending time with my dad. I think it’s just hard for tiny humans to really grasp what’s going on.

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My girls cry everytime they have to go to their dads… it hurts my heart so bad…

Could be that he misses you or not. You could always take to a counselor if your worried its more.

My almost 4 year old son has cried almost every time since we started 50/50. It started full in sept this year and he did 1 day and every other weekend and he still cried then. I think with ours its separation anxiety but ive also heard his dad doesn’t pay much attention to him and he’s always been a mamas boy. But yes, if they are vocal ask why they dont want to go and what’s going on. He sends me snaps. Its hard on little ones. Sorry I know the feeling

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My boys were like this . at dads they did everything themselves and at moms they are kids clean in an environment that is scheduled and structured. He no longer takes them and my kids dont ask. Prayers for your little one ive been there and its heartbreaking

Mine did a few times when he was little. But he’s a mamas boy. Even now, he will be 10 on the 25th, and he still doesn’t like being away from me over night. To go play during the day is fine but towards night he wants to go home. They only way to get him to stay overnight with his grandpa or aunt or anyone is i have to send one of my blankets that smells like me with him and he has to have his phone so he can call me whenever he wants.

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Yes! Every single time for the past 2 years lol kicks, screams, cries and then she’s fine. She’s never cried coming back to see me except once and it was a happy cry :sob:

Split households are hard on all kids, but little kids just want their mommy. It’s normal. I still cry every time she has to go, but it’ll be okay.

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Mine do, but nothing bad. Our houses just operate differently :woman_shrugging:t2: they are used to seeing me Mon-Fri so when they go to days it’s a solid 36-48hours since they see me next

I can remember being little and doing this to my mom. Sometimes it’s just the fear of change. You are your babies safe place

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My grandkids are 2 and 3 they scream when I do the exchange with their mom and they cry when I turn down the street to go to their dads house. I think they just love having fun with me. Kids are finicky sometimes. It doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong. I mean check for obvious red flags and maybe talk to his dad. Maybe you can discuss some of your sons favorite activities that could make the switch between parents less stressful.

My girls did after the divorce. Didnt last long. They were mommas girls and just didnt want to leave me. They are. Ow 11 and 12 and perfectly fine. It’s normal. Doesnt mean anything is happening or wrong

Could be something or it could be nothing :woman_shrugging:t4: you know your child better then anyone if you believe what he’s telling you about nothing going on then it’s probably nothing… but if you don’t believe he’s being truthful try to get to the bottom of it

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My son does this every time. But he only sees his dad one weekend a month if that. He always has fun. My son is 4.5yrs and a mamas boy all the way. He is by my side no matter what i do. When he says he doesnt want to go i always hug him real tight and tell him i know. But its not fair to daddy to keep you all to myself.

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Consider family therapy to try to work out what the issue is

I would ask him to send you a photo or video to make sure everything is okay. Kids do this at daycare also and than they are completely fine 5 min later. :slightly_smiling_face: hope all gets better x

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