My childs father has cheated and is still talking to the girl: Advice?

He’s already made his decision when you gave him a second chance and he chose to continue the behavior. He doesn’t get to have both and you Don’t have to settle for less than you deserve.

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Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Know your worth. Kick him out. As for her, if she knows he has a family at home and is continuing to be a part of it, she’s just as much of a garbage human being as he is. Sending hugs. Stay strong.

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Take the trash OUT honey

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Stay calm. Get all of your information together. Know what your rights are and the best course of action for you and your baby, then do them. And do NOT let his ass back in.

Leave, I did for twenty years in hopes he’d change…He didn’t… Do it now don’t wait… I know easier said than done especially when there is kids… But at the end of day you have to love you and realize you deserve a whole hell of a lot more! That’s all… Best of luck

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Just because you have a child together doesn’t change a man . Move on he will continue and once that trust is broken you will never be happy he’s already damaged the family

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What’s the question here? You deserve better. So does your son

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Um leave the dumbass.

You already know what you need to do

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Well first of all stop crying and feeling sad about him. He’s actively involved in an ongoing relationship with you both. Stop thinking for one second having a kid means or changes anything. You don’t need him and chances are he’s only ever giving you the bare minimum in your “ relationship “. Chances are this chick is the one you know and there have been others that just didn’t work out. I have had to deal with this myself babe bottom line is you need to decide if you want to be first or second choice. You are not going to be able to guilt him or do anything to prove your worth to him he’s going to use you both and tell you both that you are his true love blah blah blah it’s all drama bullshit that you just need to get out of because it’s just soul crushing and pointless especially for some asshole who doesn’t add anything to your life. I know it’s easy to say this and you will take the jerk back and sleep with him maybe 2 more times BUT he absolutely doesn’t love you they way you need and he’s not going to be the guy you want him to be. He’s a 43 year old man child who’s getting some attention and he’s low self esteem is being boosted by you ladies getting hurt. You got to cut him off and stop talking to him and wish him well away from you. Don’t let him manipulate you by using the kid stand your ground and make rules. If he is actually going to grow up abd be a parent he will be able to follow a Co parent plan if not he’s going to go do him and honestly that’s not a loss just try to get your child support and focus your love on your baby and your family. That’s what matters.

Leave. One mistake would be bad enough but a mistake repeated is a choice. He’s made it clear he’s not going to stop.

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Kick him the hell out he will not stop and he don’t care he just wants a free ride

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Leave!! He can’t have his cake and eat it too like what the hell!!!

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kick him out again and dont give in this time . i do believe if given a chance they can change. (mine did) but that doesn mean they will

Kick his ass out and don’t let him return

If he loved you and his family that much he wouldn’t bother the other lady or still be talking

Sounds like something my ex would do say he loves me and we will be together forever but every chance he got he cheated
And everything I found out he cried like a baby claiming he loved me but I’d they loved us they wouldn’t cheat and continue to talk to them after making up with you

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He abused your trust once, you forgave him and he done it again. He’s betrayed you in the most awful way and as long as you allow this to continue then it will. You have a son, you don’t want him growing up thinking this is how you treat women. You deserve better. Get rid and stick to it. Xx

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The best indication of future intentions are his behavior and action after the shit hit the fan. If he truly wanted to work on it and be a family, he’d have cut her off and never looked back. He’s having his cake and eating it too. The fact he hasn’t cut her out tells me he thinks there will be no consequences from you. Hold his dumb ass accountable for his actions. He isn’t respecting you. He isn’t respecting your relationship. And he sure as hell isn’t respecting his child and setting a positive example. He made his choice. Let him live with it. You can’t force someone to care about you. If it’s not there, it’s not there. All he’s thinking about right now is himself. You deserve someone who CHOOSES to be faithful. Who chooses you. He’s never going to be that, no matter how many chances or ultimatums you give him.

Up to you. He isn’t going to give her up. So can you live with it or not? If not, walk away. You gave him plenty of chances.

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Run … he just dont wanna pay child support…it has nothing to do with “loving his family”

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