My Child's Father Never FaceTimes Him Between Visits: Is That Weird?

QUESTION:

"I am just looking for opinions. My two-year-old son’s father gets him every other weekend from Friday at 2:00 until Sunday at 2:00. He lives 2 hours away, and that’s what works best for our schedule. No court obligation or anything.

He doesn’t FaceTime him or check in on him in between his visits. That just seems so weird to me. I’ve never made a fuss about it or anything. It just seems odd.

Am I off here? I FaceTime him at least once a day while he’s with his daddy."

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TOP ANSWERS (AS SELECTED BY MODERATOR):

“No, doesn’t seem off too me. He works. Has errands and stuff to take care of. Tbh it’s more off to me that you facetime while he’s with dad. He should be allowed uninterrupted time with his child.”

“I mean honestly I think it’s odder that you FaceTime every day that he’s with dad.”

“My son is 3 and his dad gets him every other weekend also. He doesn’t text/call the whole two weeks he doesn’t see him at first it bothered me… but now I’m like it’s his own decision. I text here and there when he’s at his dad’s to see what he up too (not every weekend he has him tho and never FaceTime). Now my son has a strong bond with his stepdad. Even started talking/acting like him! Not my problem that he doesn’t contact him. I’m not gonna force him to contact OUR son. Ain’t nobody got time for that.”

“I personally think because he only sees him every other week, he should be contacting you to at least see how he is. A lot can happen in two weeks’ time between visits and if he starts now, he will form a better bond with him.”

“My son’s dad doesn’t usually FaceTime or call between visits. I don’t bother him either though when he’s at his dad’s. I let them enjoy their time together. Not that you’re wrong, my son is older. If he were only two, I’d probably FaceTime him while he was away as well.”

“I understand where you are coming from; as moms, we can’t imagine not knowing how our babies are doing for days at a time. I also don’t think it’s because the dad doesn’t care or doesn’t want to check on your baby. Men are just wired differently I guess. My husband says men are like Bluetooth, they form strong connections but you have to be close. It’s a good idea to let him know he can check on him or call him if he wants to, just don’t hold that against him!”

“Nothing strange about it at all. It’s fine. A father-son bond is different, not any less, just different. Let him have his time alone uninterrupted with dad. It’s THEIR time.”

“Doesn’t sound odd to me. I assume he feels the child is in good hands and a 2-year-old probably isn’t going to have the attention span for a good face time call.”

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We have 50/50 we do not communicate when she is with the other parent so they can have their time uninterrupted. It works well for us

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Just let it go jeez… and stop intruding on his weekends with his son.

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It’s not uncommon for parents to not FaceTime in between visits.

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I personally think because he only see him every other week, he should be contacting you to at least see how he is. A lot can happen in two weeks time between visits and if he starts now, he will form a better bond with him.

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What she’s saying is he doesn’t check in with the kid for like a week…i think he should talk to his son every day

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My son’s dad doesn’t usually FaceTime or call between visits. I don’t bother him either though when he’s at his dad’s. I let them enjoy their time together. Not that you’re wrong, my son is older. If he were only two, I’d probably FaceTime him while he was away as well.

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My three girls go to their dads every weekend I usually don’t talk to them till I pick them up. I figured it’s his time. And during the week he will rarely call unless it’s to discuss the up coming weekend. They each have their own phone so sometimes they will text me or vis versa

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My daughters dad only shows up now about once every 2-3months but when he was seeing her (basically same schedule you have) he wouldn’t check in unless he was contacting me to cancel his visitation bc he had other things going on

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He doesn’t want to call you or go through you

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My son is 3 and his dad gets him every other weekend also. He doesn’t text/call the whole two weeks he doesn’t see him at first it bothered me… but now I’m like it’s his own decisions…i text here and there when he’s at his dad’s to see what he up too (not every weekend he has him tho and never FaceTime) now my son has a strong bond with with his stepdad. Even started talking/acting like him​:woman_shrugging:t4:… not my problem that he doesn’t contact him I’m not gonna force him to contact OUR son. Ain’t nobody got time for that :smirk:

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Nothing wrong with it. I would assume if something happened one of you would contact the other. Otherwise it’s his choice. Some dads just don’t think like a mom would.

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Not really. My grandsons Dad is in the military & only sees him a few times a year. He hasn’t seen him since Christmas this time. He never asks my daughter to FaceTime him or anything & he’s almost 3. He checks in about once a week to see how he is & occassionly asks for a picture.

Doesn’t sound odd to me. I assume he feels the child is in a good hands and a 2 year old probably isn’t going to have the attention span for a good face time call.

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We don’t ask about the kids when they’re with their other parent. It’s their time

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No doesnt seem off too me. He works. Has errands and stuff to take care of . Tbh it’s more off to me that you facetime while hes with dad. He should be allowed uninterrupted time with his child. .

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My daughter dad doesn’t either he suppose to get her every other weekend . but I do call and say goodnight when she is with him…

My Daughter’s father NEVER checks in when it’s my time…she doesn’t even notice anymore. :frowning:

The kid is 2…not really a big deal. I didn’t talk to my kid either when he went to his dads. I’m sure dad is comfortable enough with you and trusts you enough to know his son is ok when he’s not with him. I wouldn’t even give it a second thought :woman_shrugging:t2:

Maybe he trusts that if you need anything or if something happens, you will let him know. That isnt odd to me.

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