"I am just looking for opinions. My two-year-old son’s father gets him every other weekend from Friday at 2:00 until Sunday at 2:00. He lives 2 hours away, and that’s what works best for our schedule. No court obligation or anything.
He doesn’t FaceTime him or check in on him in between his visits. That just seems so weird to me. I’ve never made a fuss about it or anything. It just seems odd.
Am I off here? I FaceTime him at least once a day while he’s with his daddy."
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“No, doesn’t seem off too me. He works. Has errands and stuff to take care of. Tbh it’s more off to me that you facetime while he’s with dad. He should be allowed uninterrupted time with his child.”
“I mean honestly I think it’s odder that you FaceTime every day that he’s with dad.”
“My son is 3 and his dad gets him every other weekend also. He doesn’t text/call the whole two weeks he doesn’t see him at first it bothered me… but now I’m like it’s his own decision. I text here and there when he’s at his dad’s to see what he up too (not every weekend he has him tho and never FaceTime). Now my son has a strong bond with his stepdad. Even started talking/acting like him! Not my problem that he doesn’t contact him. I’m not gonna force him to contact OUR son. Ain’t nobody got time for that.”
“I personally think because he only sees him every other week, he should be contacting you to at least see how he is. A lot can happen in two weeks’ time between visits and if he starts now, he will form a better bond with him.”
“My son’s dad doesn’t usually FaceTime or call between visits. I don’t bother him either though when he’s at his dad’s. I let them enjoy their time together. Not that you’re wrong, my son is older. If he were only two, I’d probably FaceTime him while he was away as well.”
“I understand where you are coming from; as moms, we can’t imagine not knowing how our babies are doing for days at a time. I also don’t think it’s because the dad doesn’t care or doesn’t want to check on your baby. Men are just wired differently I guess. My husband says men are like Bluetooth, they form strong connections but you have to be close. It’s a good idea to let him know he can check on him or call him if he wants to, just don’t hold that against him!”
“Nothing strange about it at all. It’s fine. A father-son bond is different, not any less, just different. Let him have his time alone uninterrupted with dad. It’s THEIR time.”
“Doesn’t sound odd to me. I assume he feels the child is in good hands and a 2-year-old probably isn’t going to have the attention span for a good face time call.”
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