My cousin is with someone I do not approve of: Advice?

I am at a loss here; my cousin is with a guy that I don’t approve of. It is not without good reason tho; I had been talking to her on the fone when he woke up from a drunken sleep. He then proceeded to yell at her; I could hear slapping and him saying awful things to her. I could only hear her crying out for help, and I wish I could’ve called the cops, but they were both inebriated. I didn’t want my niece to be taken away…it’s an awful thing both ways I look at it. I just wanna know if I should tell her dad, who could make talk to her or should I continue to let her make her own choice to stay with his abusive ass…

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Wtf. Call the cops…

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You can make an anonymous report to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-787-3224. They can get her help.

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Well if u wait to long the child could be i danger if both parents are in a drunken rage get the child to safety

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You could always reach out to other family members for help, for her. However, that may only make it worse for her where the boyfriend is concerned. Basically, anyone who steps in the way of him & his motive, is a threat. If you personally see/hear things like that going on, call for a well check. The police officers will do it anonymously to protect you.

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Wait… do you think your cousin’s child is your niece??

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Do what’s best for the kid not her, clearly she’s not making good decisions and the baby dad deserves to know his child is in a dangerous situation

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Ummm I would have called the cops but hey whatever

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I she wants to stay that’s her problem…, but the child shouldn’t have too!!! I would have called the police and let them handle it, if the child was taken it’s better the having to bury all of them. And if they take her then she would be placed with family, or maybe NO One wants the responsibility!!!

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really??? You hear someone getting beating & because they both were drunk, that was a reason not to call for help??? I really would hate to be your friend & need help . That is one poor ass excuse. Sorry…it is !!! I have no other words. Next time… freaking call. Because she just might not have too many next times !!!

Your niece (think you meant second cousin though) is probably better placed with family than in a home with an abuser watching her mom get beaten and could possibly end up in danger herself. If they were both drunk and the child was there you definitely should have called the police.

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If you get involved there is a chance that she will listen but then she will be with him again.if your cousin is grown talk to her and if she doesn’t want to listen at least get the child out of that situation before it gets worse.

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The child is probably better off without them for now. Let her father know, hopefully he is kore stable. But your concern should be the child not your cousin and her drunk abusive boyfriend

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She has to make that decision for herself. Just be there and be supportive. She needs you not more then ever.

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Definitely get someone involved he shouldn’t be putting hands on her drunk or not, i know if she was my kids my husband and I would give the boyfriend the same treatment he’s giving the girl

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Maybe get Grandpa to take the baby until things calm down

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Does he have to kill her to get help? Yes tell her dad,!!

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First: talk to her more and make sure you have the facts straight so that you’re not making assumptions based on what you heard.

Second: if he really is abusive, speak up. She could be mad at you but you’re doing the right thing and she will thank you eventually.

Third: it’s spelled Phone

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Get some family members to help her she does not need to be treated that way .

Call cops and CPS. Not a healthy environment for the child to be in.

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