My daughter came out to me: How can I support her?

Hi, I have an anonymous question I would like to be asked, please! I would like to start out by saying I love and support my daughter and all of my kids no matter what. That being said! My 11-year-old daughter (very recently) came out to me as bisexual. I want to be as supportive and sensitive to her about this as possible. My question is, has anyone had their young child come out to them? Do kids this young even know what their sexual orientation is? (I know this one may offend some people, but it’s a genuine question.) I will show support and love and go along with whatever she chooses now, or later…what are some ways I can show support? Is there such a thing as too much support? Would it be better to just move on and let her guide the way? Thanks for listening! And thanks in advance for any advice or support given!

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Just go for it! Support her! She’s so young and I’m sure she’s just experimenting in her age group. I wouldn’t worry about too much. I came out to my parents at 17 and they were super supportive and it’s only made us closer. Get her some rainbow stuff! Make her a cake! Just show you care cuz that’s the most important thing

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I think you just need to be there for her no matter what, and when she needs you most. As long as you love and accept her for her, all will be ok!

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I have no idea but i can say just less to her and till her you will always be there no matter what and if she cam to you and not someone else she already trusts you!!!

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Just keep doing what you are doing and support

I knew then but didn’t come out till I was about 15. The fact that at this young she felt comfortable enough to tell you says so much about how great you are in her eyes as a mom. Just remind her you love her and keep trucking on.

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Just keep it normal and support. If she came home and said she has a a boyfriend and likes guys would you make her a cake and buy a bunch of stuff? No. Thia is what is wrong. Treat it like you would treat if she wasnt vi sexual!

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My 18 yr old cam out at 14 as lesbian but said around 10 she knew she was attracted to girls. My little sister is 21 and came out at 15 but knew for yrs too.

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I didn’t do anything special or treat my daughter any differently
The best support is to treat them normally
And yes they can know at that age who they are attracted to or have crushes on

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Its 2020. It’s not a big deal anymore.

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My 11 year old came out to me and thought none of us would love her anymore :cry: I just gave her plenty of reassurance that she is and will always be loved and aslong as she is healthy, happy and isn’t hurting anyone we will always be here for her through anything :heart:

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I haven’t been there but i would just be there for her and let her know if she would like to talk your there.

Just accept her support her love her

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My almost 13 year old just came out to me also saying she was lesbian. I told her that I would love her and respect her choices. She could have her girlfriend come over and wouldn’t be treated any different than if she had a boyfriend. Also she can talk to me about anything no matter what it is and I’ll be here for her.

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The fact that you WANT to support her is huge! I’d just follow her lead, continue to be there for her, you can figure the rest out together

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My daughter came out to me at 11. I didn’t make a big deal over it. We discussed if she really knew what it meant to be bi sexual. She thanked me for loving her. And that was it. As long as your daughter knows you love her no matter what, that’s all you need to do right now. She’ll let you know if she’s got any questions or needs anything else. I just don’t feel making a big deal about it is necessary. I wouldn’t make a big deal out of one of my boys saying they have a gf

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Just be okay with it
Go with the flow

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Support who she is… what does this mean “I will show support and love and go along with whatever she chooses now, or later” what if that isn’t a choice, but who she really is?

My daughter told me the same at 12. I said ok, it’s time for dinner. She said “aren’t you mad?” My response was “you’re still you, now let’s eat” we didn’t make a big deal bc it’s not a big deal. I dont really care who she loves as long as she is happy. Nothing changed except she knew I wouldnt stop loving her.

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Young people see the world so differently today. Love is love. Gender neutral, gay, bisexual, or even pan sexual. This is not something to stress about. Encourage her to be her best self. Oh and congrats on your parenting skills. Says a lot that she had this conversation with you. Just my two cents. Please no haters.

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