My daughter doesn't want to except that she has started her period: Adivce?

My daughter is getting her period now but doesn’t want to accept it is happening. She tries to hide it and free bleed or hides the underwear and tissue hidden in her room or under my bathroom furniture for me to find. She’s destroying clothes, I’m afraid she will pull this and I won’t catch it and she gets made fun of in school. I’ve tried talking to her, making pads accessible so she didn’t have to come to me, giving her a garbage pail in her room, punishing, lecturing. I honestly don’t know what to do but this needs to stop. HELP!!

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How old is this girl? Sound like she might need some professional help if she’s just denying that it’s happening.

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TAke her to the doctor

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Is there anyone else sharing the bathroom? She could just be embarrassed. Get a can with a lid for either the bathroom or her bedroom or even both.

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Peroxide. Soak her clothes in it. The blood will come out. Maybe therapy? Someone she can talk to?

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I aint no mother but as a daughter i think you should talk to her calmly
Tell her what it means
Let her know there’s nothin to be ashamed of
And how some of us dont get it, and that she’s lucky that she do :slight_smile:
Talkin and explainin calmly can easily help , hopefully xx

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Is there another girl/woman in her life? Sometimes my kids won’t listen to me about stuff but the moment someone else says it, they are like “oh hey that’s a great idea” maybe someone else could step in and pretend like they are on their period and need to go get a pad so they don’t ruin their nice clothes or bleed through and show the whole world.

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I was just talking to a friend about this the other day. She has a teen age daughter and this generation is very understanding about free-bleeding. I wonder if the mom in this case is projecting her own fear.

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Does she have an aunt? Maybe try having her aunt talk to her about it.

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Talk to her nice and make her listen. But just the important stuff and how to take care of herself while she is menstruating. Your Daughter is probably embarrassed to talk about this to you. That happens a lot. Best is to just not mention it after the talk or she will never confine in you and ask for help.

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Moms are embarrassing. Does she have an aunt or an older cousin who is cool and can talk her through it?

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Maybe ask the Doctor to have a word…There are now period knickers she might prefer them cos she doesnt need to wear pads…

Make her clean her underwear and wherever she bleeds. Anything to do with her period, she cleans it. You’ve made everything accessible. Ask her if she needs a different type of pad. Make her go to the store and pick out the one she wants. I understand it’s embarrassing, but this might be how she actually starts to use them.

Take her to the doctor for her check up and maybe explain to the doctor that she isn’t accepting what’s happening to her body, and they can discuss it with her.

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Pantene shampoo works great on blood stains !

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There is something super wrong going on. Please call her pediatrician and make an appointment. This isn’t normal behavior. I had a schizophrenic patient who did this…

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Maybe if she is made fun of in school she will want to stop acting that way! Harsh yes, but sometimes u have to be.

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Tampons and pads can be scary and confusing. Maybe look into other methods.

I know they make panties that will absorb the blood, maybe invest in some of those for her so she can find out what is most comfortable for HER.

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Buy her period undies.

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I’ve heard of this happening with individuals who have dysmorphia because they are disgusted by their own period. Maybe try talking to her and finding out the root cause of her behavior. It might also be worth having her talk to her doctor or a counselor.

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