I don’t know what to do anymore. I love my daughter more than anything, but she is exhausting me. She is 2.5 and has sensory issues, and is delayed in speech. She is receiving therapies, and I have been working with her so much, and I have seen so many improvements… but she is still behind, and her lack of communication and refusal to listen is really starting to take its toll on me. No matter what I do, I can’t get her to focus and listen to me or follow simple instructions. For example, when I tell her to stop throwing things (which she constantly does!), she continues to do it no matter what I do. I can ignore her, take things away, yell, nothing makes her stop doing whatever “bad” thing she’s doing - she’ll just find something else to do to make a mess. Even when I try to do sensory-based play that she really enjoys, she will not follow simple instructions and play nicely (example: if we are playing with sensory water beads or play dough, she will try to take it away from the table and throw it all over the floor, which always ends in me having to clean up a mess and deal with a meltdown because I take the activity away). On top of this, she’s constantly fighting sleep. It’s now almost 12 am and she’s still wide awake. Even if I turn the lights off, she will still jump around on the bed or cry her eyes out if I leave the room. And even if she doesn’t take a nap during the day, she will still fight to go to sleep, despite having a pretty solid bedtime routine (dinner, play, bath, pajamas, milk, lay down). I’m physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted trying to work with her, keep her stimulated throughout the day, and worrying about her development, but even when I do try to relax, she’s either all over me, throwing things around the house or won’t go to sleep. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with these issues? She’s supposed to be starting daycare in January, which I hope will help her, but nothing her therapists have suggested has worked so far. Someone, please tell me this gets better, without negative comments, please.
Give her some melatonin… they have liquid stuff at Walmart.
My 7 yrs old has the same issues and as much as I I didn’t want too… I have him on adhd meds and he’s a different kid. Has friends in school hes polite…
Stay strong mama
Mama you need time for you.
Try when and then. When you sit quietly then we will play. Or you have 5 more minutes , 3 min etc then were done with the play dog or what ever you are playing. When she doesn’t listen give her 2 choices, again when then, follow through. Shes just as confused as you are, she cant tell you what she needs. Hold on mama it will get better. Try aba therapy, speech, you are doing great.
Check for food/environmental allergies. Can effect behavior.
My daughters almost three and fights sleep (real night owl). I just started using these because I didn’t want to create a melatonin dependence. They’ve been a game changer.
2.5 is pretty young still… my 3 year old is a shit head lol I’m sure if you just stay consistent and headed in the right direction she’ll get there as she gets older. But it sounds like you could use a break momma, it’s probably the best for both of you.
Sounds a LOT like my oldest when he was that age ( and honestly now sometimes hes almost 9) talk to her pediatrician. My son was diagnosed with high functioning autism, sensory processing disorder and a sleep disorder. He was put on trazadone at 1 until almost 3 but now takes melatonin. Also therapy will help you as well. Feel free to message me with questions! Good luck momma
Just wanted to send you hugs hang in there mama. Have you thought about kids cbd oil.
Cut out any and all red dye, tons of sugar, reduce wheat to none one week, then no dairy one week, then no eggs one week. She sounds like she’s got massive food allergen behavior triggers. Also, go to the local social services and see if you can apply for a home health aide. You need help.
She will develop on her own time I have a son that’s Autistic she’ll give you clues when she’s ready. My son I had to tell him before hand what we were doing. It a schedule, these kids don’t like surprised. Kids thrive on schedules. If you do something off your schedule you say your plans. Like 5 minutes before you do it. Start with a night time routine… it works oh white noise works too.
Check out the autism support groups. They have lots of advice and coffee and wine for tired fed up mamas dealing with kids that need little sleep and have sensory issues and how to redirect behaviors as beat you can. At the very least, you’ll get an understanding ear and lots of sympathy.
My son is the same exactly the same its hard. Same age and all. Ita frustrating but we have to understand our kids need a little mkrw understanding the a normal 2.5 yr old as they arent developmentally the same. Take a deep breath. Relax. A mess can get cleaned later. Dont take toy or play away give her a count down of 5 trys or 5 mins whatever. Eventually she’ll get it. Keep your cool. My son doesnt sleep either and i have a 5 month old also. I havent spelt but 3 hours a night in over 2 yrs. Im exhausted but he needs help sleeping. He needs comfort. Weighted blanket has helped a little with this a a good bath/ night routine. Lavender lotion and a really good massage to calm him down help a lot. He goes right to sleep. (Will he stay asleep idk but it def put him out) lol same routine every night. Since im going thru the same thing please feel free to message me. Always here for yoy, mama! You’re doing a great job!
My son is 4 and has sensory issues as well as anxiety, and adhd. I go through this often. Even at 4 he will fight his sleep as long as possible, and needs constant redirection, correction, and confirmation that I love him. I found what works best for us, is routine. If you’re home with him, then wake up at the same time, breakfast, morning activities, lunch, afternoon, dinner and bedtime routine. I also have a schedule that I use for both myself and the preschool he goes to. He seems to corporate best when he knows what is next, and how long each thing will last. Our bedtime routine is a glass of milk, bath, books, then ‘quiet time’ which is him watching videos on his tablet that he likes for 30 or so mins. After that time is up we lay down together with all the lights off until he falls asleep. This is what works for us, but my suggestion is to find what works for you and your daughter, and stick too it… also having mommy time to yourself once a week or as often as you need, to keep your sanity and be your best mommy. God speed and good luck
Has she been tested for autism?
Just be patient hang in there take time for your self and try some blankets with velcro different textures with different blankets and less mess yo clean up helped with my daughter when she gets in those moods also vut them into different shapes and patterns it lets her be an artist at dame time
Sounds a lot like autism, unfortunately there’s a huge difference with boys and girls due to lack of research on girls and the variety of symptoms. But like many have said, there’s others who feel the same
Your exhaustion is showing momma… be easy on yourself and your little… our little people are just as frustrated as we are… I can only imagine the frustration of not knowing a better way to express ourselves and feel heard… as much as I despise cleaning playdoh out of wooden floors (they never ever stay on the plastic mats I spread) I embrace the mess and let them play a while, even if that means I walk away biting my tongue over the mess being created… I let them play it out… then have them help clean it up when we are done… I once watched a video that simulates riding in a cart as a child with sensory processing disorder… (check YouTube) I have to remind myself that the world looks a whole lot different through eyes that see differently than we do… finding a way to communicate without driving momma to the edge of sanity would help so much… I’m not aware of your situation from the inside and none of us can entirely fathom all the weight upon your shoulders… I flow in a cycle of guilt often because I just feel there are so many things I can do better… so today was rough, I apologize to them for having a high speed come apart and thank them for having patience with me… I personally wasn’t raised with many healthy coping skills, so I have to create them, and tweak them as new situations arise… hoping that I’m teaching them better methods than I’ve been taught… and at the end of the day, we can’t change much more than our own reaction… just keep trying until you find something that has a positive impact, build from there… if it’s a meltdown when having things taken from them for bad behavior, switch gears and have them do positive things to earn time with the toys they treasure… I hope my rambling helps in some way, but I do feel you momma and have had similar experiences…
This is how my son’s autism is. I understand the whole “cut out all the diet” thing, but if your child is autistic, you can cut everything off and they’ll still behave the same way. It’s frustrating to communicate for them because they can’t. They try and when they can’t, they misbehave. I’ve had to step away and calm down because I get so frustrated with him sometimes. It’s ok to step away
My daughter was the exact same way at that age & she was diagnosed with adhd .