My daughter is acting out: Advice?

Mom’s, I need advice. My 8 yr old daughter has been a big meany. She actually went as far as hitting another kid at school today. Now we don’t condone this behavior. I have taken away EVERYTHING toys phone tv. I made her write sentences. Here’s the catch she’s been so good at home helping around the house not arguing. Ect. Her grades a pretty good too. A little about us… we’re having a new baby in April. She’s been the only child the whole time. I was a single mom for quite a long time before marrying my husband. 2 yrs now. We give her individual time and attention. We involve her as much as possible with baby things. I just don’t know what I’m doing wrong here. Can any seasoned parents give me advice?

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Don’t blame yourself…Just keep giving her consequences

Could she be jealous of the new baby? Or possibly being bullied at school?

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Children do this when big things happen. It’s how they know how to cope. Just keep doing what you’re doing. Things will get better once she realizes that she’s still loved❤️

Maybe the kid has been bullying her. If she’s good at home I’d investigate what’s up at school.

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If she’s good at home, and not acting out . its more than likely something/one at school. She’s prolly being bullied. An stood up for herself. Talk to her!!!

Whoop that ass, I was raised old school. Child is old enough for physical punishment, make her stand in the corner,make her stand in the room where she cant watch tv or anything and whoop that ass… if you dont try and fix it now it will continue and that’s not something you need around a baby and while you’re raising a baby

My daughter acted out when she found out I was pregnant. There’s a 8 1/2 year age difference. It got better until the new baby arrived. Her behavior was awful. She finally is accepting it. I call it only child syndrome. I feel like it’s hard for children to express how they are feeling and they take it out on others. I pray things get better for you. Maybe talk to her teacher and see if there’s a issue at school?

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Did you ASK her why she hit someone else? Have a conversation with her?

Investigate school something is up !!
Maybe try to hang out at school for the day
Also talk to her about things
But don’t feel sorry if she is acting out still need consequences

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What did the other child do? Why did she hit them?

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When does the hitting occur at school? Often, children will act out earlier in the day, most often before lunch, because they’re hangry. I would check in to this. I can’t tell you what to do at home, but know that she’s being disciplined for this at school as well so consequences at home and school may be to much… But before you look into the aspect of her being bullied at school or expressing jealousy over the expected baby, I would honestly look in to the timing of her outbursts.

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If the problem is only at school I would start there. Are the other children being mean to her? How is the teacher? Is she getting enough to eat? Is the bus ride long? Are the children misbehaving on the bus? Sometimes I think the best thing to do is let the school punish for school things and let the home punish for home things. Does she communicate with you about school and what is going on? Do you listen?

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1st why the hell does an 8yr old have a phone to begin with, and 2nd if she hit someone maybe there was a good reason behind it. Have you asked her what happened and why she did it

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You could always try getting her into sports or other activities to see if that relieves some stress she has of not being your only baby anymore.

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This happened with my 4 yr old. He would have tantrums every day, he got better after my baby was born but now he craves more attention from me only . It’s hard on him & I feel bad for disciplining when it’s needed . I just try to make sure I give him all the love he needs .

If she’s good at home, something may be going on at school. If the kid was being a bully, sorry he deserved it. Biggest thing is communication. Don’t get mad right away or upset. Get to the bottom of everything. There’s more to the story and maybe she doesn’t deserve to be in trouble.

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Phone at 8 years old?

Maybe try talking to her, and ask how she’s feeling about the whole situation, even as kids things like that can stress you out, or maybe there’s a problem at school no one is aware of?

My daughter was 6 when i had my son now 1yr old. She acted out some the closer i got to having him and she was extremely involved with my pregnancy and her brother when he got here. It took about 6-8 months after i had him for her to stop acting out it only happened occasionally And most of it was at school. Only advice id give is keep her involved it as much of it as you feel comfortable. Talk to her about how she’s feeling and about how she thinks things will be once baby is here. Make sure she knows and feels important loved and still knows and understands the baby isnt going to change her place in the house or in yalls heart. Best of luck