My daughters bio dad wants to see her but I feel uncomfortable with it: Advice?

My daughter is six years old… her stepdad and I have been together for almost two years. Her bio “dad” came to our home over a year ago, causing a bunch of drama, which resulted in us having to get a restraining order. The RO stated that bio was allowed to call my daughter once a day at a certain time. He was ordered to go do an intake for supervised visits. He obviously failed to do so. His calls are getting fewer and further in between. My daughter doesn’t really speak to him but plays the games on the video chat more than anything. He has never paid a cent for child support, which was also court-ordered. He has a felony drug possession warrant. He has failed to get that taken care of but has begged me to let him see the baby. Baby’s stepdad and I are completely uncomfortable with that, and fear for hers and our safety. We want to get her last name changed, as well, but he won’t give me his address so I can have him served.

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if he has not done the court ordered supervised visitation YOU DONT HAVE TO ALLOW THIS and I wouldn’t cause than YOU will be violating court order

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He doesn’t get to see her until he does everything he is ordered to do to do so. Court wont take you seriously if you let him around without doing anything and then try to complain about him not following the court orders.

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No address? Oh hell no!

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If he’s been told how he can see his child…until he gets his life together…
“You want to see her, that’s perfectly fine. Follow the court order.”
And leave it at that. He can be mad or whatever, but he hasn’t don’t his part to make the court change it.
No judge will enforce his wants when he hasn’t done anything else asked of him.

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Unless the new guy married you and adopted her. . . He isn’t stepdad and has no say. If he can prove he’s trying and that you are withholding it’ll look bad on you. Protection orders do expire so if you feel unsafe then make sure that’s in date still. If you choose to meet up do so in public places such as park, mall, etc.

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He needs to do what the court says then see his kid.

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Meet in public for visits. And you wont be able to change her name without her dads permission…I’ve been there. Just follow the agreement you have now so you’re not in contempt either

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If he can’t stand up and do his part he should have no visits. Follow courts orders or back off!

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You have a RO against him, he has warrants and no child support paid… yeah keep your child away

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Don’t let him! Violating a restraining order can get you in trouble.

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Send it to his last known. They might make you do a paper listing. Look into it.

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You think you’re gonna see my kid if I don’t have your address??? Lol faaaaaat chance

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Go to family court. Fill out papers for name change, sole physical custody… no address? You will be told to run ad in paper for 6 wks. If he doesn’t answer or show up for court they will then award you what you asked for

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If you don’t even know where he lives them no he doesn’t get child and he can’t follow the court orders so next time he says something about it tell him when he does everything the courts want and turn over where he lives to you then he might get a chance but not until he had done everything he’s been ordered to do

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If he has a warrant set up a meeting and have the police go instead :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Nope he wont get to see her until court stuff is finalized. He didnt do what he was supposed to. As far as last name 9 out 10 you wont get to change it because your name can change but his wont. Sk most of the time they don’t grant name changes if dad is even a little involved

He would have to sign his rights over to have the name change.

You can check into abandonment time length and see if the judge will take his rights away.

But then that is hard one bc what if your daughter doesn’t want that. She’s not old enough to really understand all this.

Did her Dad sign her birth certificate? If not it might be easier to change her last name.

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Helllll to the no. First off, no address? Don’t let him take her. He can’t do shit until he takes care of the court ordered stuff.

Parents who think it’s cool to come and go from the child’s life as they please ultimately do more damage. He’s already chosen not to be a part of her life so go to court and file abandonment. Letting him confuse her every couple of years isn’t fair to her.

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