My daughters dad threatens to take away my daughter because she is constantly sick: Help?

I have joint custody with my daughters dad she is 20 months, and he keeps telling me that he is gonna keep her from me till we go to Court bc she has a cold and he blames it on me could he do that even tho I have heat and everything it’s not like she is sick all the time and mind you my oldest goes to school plus his other kids goes to school. ND last week his son had the flu, but Every time she goes back it’s my fault if she is sick

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He cant keep her from you because she happened to get a cold. Unless her getting sick is directly from neglect (ei not proper nutrition, no heat, no proper clothing) even then hed have to go through proper channels such as emergency court. Kids get sick, even more so when older siblings are in school. As long as your providing heat, food, proper clothing for the weather, and taking care of her its not your fault. He needs to stop being ridiculous

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My son has always gotten sick easily he was older before I learned he had autoimmune disease causing it

I’m sure theres more to this…

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Kids get sick lmao the judge will tell him the same thing. If she’s up to date on her shots and is taken care of you have nothing to worry about

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Doesn’t have a leg to stand on

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Make sure to clean door handles…and as soon as kids get home from school have them wash their hands with soap n water…hands carry a large % of the germs they pick up at school…this should help…my grands a sick the whole school year!..I just started the hand washing seems to help…

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It depends on the laws where you live if there is no custody papers involved as of right now there is a possibility of him being able to take the child without returning however if there are court papers or written agreement between you two he can not keep the child

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No judge will take your kid away from you over a cold. Your ex is full of shit.

If there is no legal custody agreement in place then either parent can keep a child. Here though if they do cops don’t care, you have to get a recovery order from a judge.

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Vaccines weaken the immune system’s natural capabilities to fight off infections… hence being sick often.

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I live in tn and my husband has joint custody of his daughter and we were told that if he wanted to he could keep the child til the mother took him to court Bc the law can’t physically come in your house to remove the child and give it back to the mother

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Growing up I was almost never sick. Even as a baby. My brother on the other hand… you could sneeze in his direction and he would be sick for a week. I would just make sure that you take her to the doctor and keep in touch with her pediatrician when she gets a cold and documentation of the visits and phone calls (write down what they tell you to do for her if they think it’s not needed for her to come in) And btw even though you have joint custody he cannot keep her from you legally. When you have a court order you follow the court order. He cannot take it upon himself to make executive decisions like that, hence what the judge is for. Good luck momma

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My 3 year old has had back to back colds since July… no joke.

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No judge is gonna by that line of crap. Your child is exposed about 2 weeks before she gets sick . You both have older kids at school so its bound to happen 2x as much since 2 different schools. He is just trying to scare you !

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He would be in contempt of court order if he kept her from you. If he tried you could call the cops and have them meet you there to get your daughter, if he does not comply then he would be arrested. Unless there is proof of neglect (poor hygiene, not appropriate living situations, or lack of food) he has no proof you are neglecting your child so has no case.

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Plus, any time there’s a change in environment, children can get sick. EVERY time my daughter goes to her paternal grandmother’s house, she always comes back ill. Either with a runny nose, cough, stomach bug, etc. I think part of it is the diet she gets there & her minor allergies flaring up because she has two large dogs. Maybe it’s something similar that’s happening with your child? Either way, children get sick. That’s not a reason for a child to be removed or placement to be revised.

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It’s cold and flu season, kids are all sick right now. Also, she could have a chronic condition; my son gets a bad cough whenever the temperature does a rapid drop for a couple days.

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:roll_eyes: Sounds like he’s just trying to bully you. Don’t give it a second thought. Just take care of your baby’s like you have been.

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Do you smoke around her? If she is sick all the time that could definitely be the reason. Especially smoking indoors with children. My best friends gran was always sick because her mom would smoke in the car and house with her. It wasn’t until they got custody that she stopped constantly being sick. Not saying you do but it’s a possibility :woman_shrugging:t2:

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