My daughters dad wants her to be enrolled in his school district: Advice?

I have two children; my oldest father is not in the picture at all and hasn’t been her whole life; I share custody of my youngest with her dad. He recently moved to a new area and wants to enroll our child into the school district in his area I would like to enroll her in the same school district as my oldest to try and keep them together even though they have a three year age difference. I tried to explain that it would just be easier for me if they were in the same school district instead of different ones. He feels like I’m saying he’s not equal in the decision making, which isn’t the case, but she is his only child to worry about. How can I explain my point without it making it seem like I don’t value him as an equal? We always have similar issues when it comes to co-parenting.

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He should’ve stayed on your school district if he was so worried about it

Which school has a higher rating? Put her in that school. Also if she goes to his school put older daughter in that school as well.

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Do what’s best for the child not the father

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If your child is in public school it will be based off of her address with the primary parent. I’m assuming you have full or at least primary custody so there is nothing he can do about it. I’m not sure where your from but in PA here there’s no way my son’s father could even try to enroll him in his school district because my son does not live there

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Why not both of you go look at both schools together to see if which works best for the child?

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Whatever district Whoever has primary custody is in is where she should go to school. And that’s also where she should legally speaking be enrolled

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Keep siblings together, he moved not you. I’m sure if you had of stayed together the kids would have been sent to the same school

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Being a child of split parents … talk to your child … and if that means yall have to change your custody agreement then so be it … but making your child feel like they have a say earns respect from them…

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I mean, LEGALLY the child has to go to the school located in the area she LIVES in. Parents have to pay for their children to go out of district. Who does she live with, you or dad? That’s what school she needs to go to. Also, she should be able to go to school with her big sister imo. I would’ve dreaded the bus ride without mine!

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Keeping them in the same district could be what’s best for them both your children. In this situation you do what’s best for them and not what’s best for one father.

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I’d see what district has a better school before making any decisions honestly. I’d want my child to go somewhere where she would get the best education. I wouldn’t make it a “who won” competition. It should be about the child and their education

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Sounds like a setup to me. Be very careful, she your daughter

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In my state you have to enroll in the school that your main primary address is .even if you have shared custody

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How about you both sit down and ask your child what they want. This way she does not get boxed in because you two cannot agree

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Along with the above reasons… depending on where you live, if they have an unscheduled early dismissal due to weather… tell him you wouldn’t be able to make it to 2 different districts to pick them up… so he would have to be willing and able to provide transportation for his child

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keep all kids togather

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Are the schools in his area better? If so I would definitely want my kid going to a better school

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Just do whatever is best for your child. I wouldn’t change things all willy-nilly to please him. If she is established in a good school with her sibling/friends it’s unnecessary change, IMHO. 🤷 Unless there is an academic reason for his concern/suggestion to transfer her.

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Is there a custody agreement in place? She legally should attend where she lives.

I’ve had a friend whose ex used their child’s school enrollment in their custody battle to lie and say the child lived with them and established the child’s address by using her school registration.

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