My ex-boyfriends mom always gives me advice I do not want: Thoughts?

How do I explain to my ex-boyfriend’s mom that while I value her opinion and advice and whatnot, I don’t always want it? (I’ll explain the situation with the ex-boyfriend at the end of this) His mom is a wonderful woman. But SO, overbearing. While he and I were together, she was constantly on his bank account, asking about this and that. And in his emails asking about this and that. And I would call me 500 times if he didn’t answer his phone or text her back. She lost her mind when he moved out and in with me. When he joined the navy, she got PISSED that he sent me letters and called me every chance he got. She was constantly asking to read the letters and demanded to know what we spoke about. And now that I’m pregnant, she’s so much worse. She won’t quit asking if she can go to the doctor’s appointment that shows us the gender of the baby. He and I have both told her no numerous times, but she won’t quit. She keeps touching my stomach even after being told that I’m uncomfortable being touched by anyone. She threw a fit and said, “Well, what can I do?” And he basically said, “Just sit back and enjoy the ride.” She acts like I’m killing the baby if I drink coffee. Which the OB said was fine. And she lost her mind when I said I don’t want anyone but her son in the delivery room and that we won’t be accepting visitors while I’m in the hospital. “It’s my grandchild. I deserve to be there.” She gets very upset and starts crying if I don’t tell her every little thing about my doctor appointments and whatnot. Her son and I aren’t together anymore. But we still live together and get along perfectly fine. We’re best friends. We aren’t together because the relationship just wasn’t working. It wasn’t a bad break up. We still love each other; we just don’t work together. He’s such a wonderful person and has been super supportive during the pregnancy, but she always asks him if he’s sure I won’t take off with the baby. And isn’t happy with the way I’m handling my pregnancy. She’s made it clear she hates the baby names we’ve picked out and won’t stop trying to get us to change them. I’m close to my wit’s end. Any advice? I’ve tried being nice about things. And he’s tried to tell his mom to back off. But nothing has worked. She’s stressing me out.

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Cut her off, that’s just toxic

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Literally just snap. Tell her jts YOUR child and she has NO say. People don’t respect boundaries and it’s so ridiculous that they have to ruin your experience because they’re selfish. I go through similar things and it drives me insane what I want for myself and my child can’t be respected. Just simply tell her if she can’t be respectful of what you want she doesn’t need to be involved.

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I’d tell her either stop now before she never sees that baby.

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Tell her to mind her own business. If y’all don’t put a stop to that behavior now it’ll get way worse when the baby is born. As for the hospital. Tell the nurses you do not want visitors or anyone else but your ex in the delivery room. They’ll keep people out. I wouldn’t even announce the birth until you got home from the hospital if it was me.

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darling she’s handing you the scissors just go ahead and cut ties very simple sorry that she’s being such a bitch but you don’t need the stress while you are pregnant

She sounds like she has a lot of mental issues going on in her head and needs help. I’d personally cut her off and you and your child’s father both move further away. Your relationship could have ended because of all the stress of his mother. Sometimes moving away and cutting ties helps other things fall into place. I definitely wouldn’t trust someone like that with my child.

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Sounds like you should start being “mean” about it and finally put your foot down. Tell her to knock it off, its your child, your friendship/relationship with the father and she has no reason to up your ass the way shes trying to be. Goodluck but imo you gotta do whats best for you, fuck her feelings :grimacing:

Change your #, tell him to change his # and email passwords. Who is this woman? She is psychotic.

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Your not with him anymore. Let him handle her. Distance yourself and cut her off.

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Both my mom and my mil overstepped boundaries with our kids. You have to put your foot down. The sooner the better. I let it go on for far too long before standing up for myself. You don’t need to be rude but you do need to tell her that yes this is her grandchild. However her name will not be on that birth certificate. Therefore she does not get a say in the delivery, in the name or how you raise your child. Explain that you are asking her very nicely to please step back and be respectful of the choices you and her son are making or you will have keep your distance as she is stressing you out big time and it’s very unhealthy for the baby. Also one of the best things I ever said is thanks for your opinions but if I want them I will ask for them. If I don’t ask please keep them to yourself.

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You need to set her straight. Now.

Tell her to stop or your filing a pfa for harassment

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She’s got issues big time I’m guessing shes one of those mothers that have a hard time letting her child grow up.
Pur your foot down and tell her to butt out of your business stop asking about everything she doesn’t need to know.
Make it clear to her she is over stepping the mark

She needs to back off. You can’t deal with this much stress when you’re pregnant

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She definitely sounds like a narcissist, making YOUR pregnancy about HER.
Put your foot down and tell her that it is YOUR child, not hers, and if she doesn’t back off then she’s cut out of your life and your childs life. Tell your ex about it too, no doubt he will side with you on it too

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Grandparents have no rights to the baby, it’s not their baby! Tell her she needs to back off or she won’t be welcome around the child.

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She needs to be told to mind her own business or she will not be a part of that childs life. You need to set boundaries know before the baby is born. And the frist time she crosses does boundaries you cut her off.

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Get you a man that doesn’t have a family 🤷:joy:… Seriously though at least she shows interest she’s in the very small percentage of grandparents that actually care. How bad would you feel if you were completely :100: alone? I used to work in a hospital I saw MANY a woman usually young go into maternity ALONE give birth ALONE leave the hospital with a newborn ALONE.No husband,no baby daddy no family or extended family. Point being YES it’s annoying but at least she cares cutt her some slack and continue to drill it in you need some space for yourself but DON’T resent her for it because it sounds like she’s just a mama bear that doesn’t accept her son’s grown now.

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I would tell it’s not her baby and if she wishes to be apart of their life then to keep out of it and back off x

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