My ex has an issue with the guys I date: Advice?

So I don’t really ask for advice, but I am at a loss. I am a single mother of 6 kids. One of my children passed away at two weeks old. My youngest child has a different father than my older children. My older children’s dad is not around, and I do it alone for them. My youngest dad is very involved. We were planning on moving in together last year, but he chose to get an apartment. He recently started talking to another girl. We are not together, but we’re supposed to work on it. I started online dating since I don’t have time to go out and meet people. I reconnected with someone from my past, and we started dating. My daughter’s dad is acting out and mad cause I don’t choose good guys. My boyfriend is a single parent as well. My ex acts like he can’t even talk to me anymore. I’m not sure what exactly I’m asking for here. I’m just at a point I don’t know what to do. It’s like as long as I work and take care of kids, he’s nice and conversates with me. When he found out I was dating, he changed. He says this is not me and that he’s upset cause he waited for me to do better, and I didn’t do it for him. I have done nothing different for the last two years. I feel like as long as I’m single and he’s dating, it’s ok. I hate the tension it’s causing cause we agreed to be civil and co-parent. Sorry for the long post; I just don’t know what to do anymore.

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Sounds to me like he still loves you.

The moment he decided to move on with another woman, he lost the right to have an opinion on your relationship status. Have a life and make the best choices possible hun.

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Ummm…since when is he your keeper? Screw him

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He is just trying to control the situation. So it’s ok for him to date but its not ok for you ? Do what makes you happy and don’t be concerned with his selfish attitude !

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He’s just jealous. Let him be. He has no control over what you do in your personal life.

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You do you. He is trying to train you! Don’t listen to him, your doing nothing wrong.

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He doesn’t want you to date because then he loses control over you it’s that simple point blank period. Nothing else. He doesn’t get to decide what u can and cannot do but beware men like him will go all the way to make your life miserable even with false claims so be very careful. Men like him don’t give two shits trust me. They only want things their way n their way only

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He’s trying to control you. I’ve been there. It can get much worse, so be careful.

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He’s full of shit. He gets NO say. Don’t let him manipulate you, because that is exactly what he is doing.

Sounds like He’s double standard. Do u girl

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Best thing you can do for your kids is for them to not see a revolving door…

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Tell him that. Tell him he moved on and started dating and you did too.

The minute your kids become the main priority, all of these other “distractions” will not be as bothersome to you. Life is complicated enough without the childishness of dealing with some men (and women too to be fair) who don’t understand how important their role is in their children’s lives. This is my opinion.

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None of his business

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Just please be careful in your choices of men to date. You have six sets of eyes learning from your actions…

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If these guys are not safety issues then ignore your ex. If he even has an ounce of worry because of a safety issue I don’t blame him. Y’all need a calm sit down talk alone

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He’s your ex for a reason and- ex has no room to decide for you, who you spend time with . Shoulda put a ring on you- his loss

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First off get out of the dating game now. Secondly your business is not his business the only business he has is the child. Keep your head up keep working and clear your mind for a bit. You don’t need a man and who cares who fathers who. You be strong momma this is only temporary.

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Stop involving him in your love life. It isn’t his business.

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