My ex has been cold since we split up: Advice?

My ex and I were together for four years. We have a child together. He recently decided to end things out of the blue. Since we split, he has been so cold to me. It’s like I meant nothing to him. He recently told me he got me an engagement ring and that it’s basically trash now. That’s not even all( he said way more things), but Not even a month after separating, I find out he has a new girl in his life. This is someone I never saw/ was talked about the whole relationship. I was wondering if I was wrong for wanting to know who this girl is since she has been around my son, and I still have no idea about her. I found out she been there a few times and they go on a date night with my son. It breaks my heart to know that he moved on really fast, and I am a wreck. It doesn’t even bother him I tried asking him who she is and he says that it’s none of my business I also was wondering is it wrong to ask that if my son is there that she doesn’t spend the night because my son sleeps in the same room as his father. So when she sleeps over, she would be sleeping where I use to stay, and my son knows that that is my place. I don’t want them doing it when my son is sleeping there. Which I knew already happened!! Am I completely wrong??

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Yes you’re very wrong. Let that man live his life. It’s none of your business who he is with. And unless your child is hurt then it’s not your business who he has them around.
You’re a typical bitter baby mama.

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I have full soul custody of my 2 daughters…i even gave her 3 chances to kome 2 court n fight for em at least…i did wut i did cuz she got into shooting up meth…left us 4 days b4 2016 Christmas for pills n another dude…then to this dude tht cooks meth…so when i was at court got them to look up his record…n they did…n he is not allowed around them…2yrs now on my own wth em n she owes 10 grand in child support…n just had another baby.3 weeks ago…bottom line u fight wth everything to keep ur kid safe​:black_heart::black_heart:

He probably was with her before, I would take him to court get child support and let him get visitation. What, he does after all that is fine is none of your business, but before then you have a right to know.

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Woah it is your business if she is going to be around your son when your not around. You have every right to be concerned for your son your his mother and nobody can tell you different.

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Legally it is none of your business who the father has around his child during his time. Now j do not agree with her sleeping in the same room as the child. That is something I would fight against but him being around his dads friends/girlfriends is legally none of your business.

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Honestly as a mom it’s none of your business, as long as there is no abuse you have no say. My question is, who ended the relationship first you or him? If you, then he’s probably hurt and his way of lashing out is anger by another relationship. Once he moves on, and you move on you can coparent evenly, that’s what happened with me sort to say. But question why don’t you have a custody agreement yet?

Make it clear to him that there should be nobody around your son!.

And clearly hes been messing with this girl before yall broke up

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Yes you are completely wrong take that man to court get it over with pick yourself up off the dust shake it off and move on if you keep going back Tit for Tat in the mud you’re only going to get dirty just so you know just saying

That is not “your place” anymore, but your son does NOT need to sleeping the same room.

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None of your business

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What did you expect he is already with that other girl before you split up,you don’t need to know her because be it’s none of your business business

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No your not wrong that your son you should be able to get told who this girl is around your son

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Bs if your k9d is gonna be around her thennyes you have the right to know about her

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Get over him.He is a looser

Sounds like it was over with him way before he ended it. People don’t just find someone that fast. At least that was my experience. Move on just make sure your son is taken care of and know that he is loved by both of you. He is probably having a harder time of it than you are. One thing, it is your business to know who she is and what kind of person she is, not for you but for the safety of your child.

He was probably seeing her before he broke up with you as to why he’s over it already. You have every right to know what kind of person your child is hanging around but sadly there isn’t much you can do about it unless you take his parental rights away from him.

I feel like you have every right as mother to know who your child is around.But controlling what is going to happen in someone else’s house is not going to happen.Your hurt and it may take a while to get over this but you will prayers for you and karma’ s a [email protected]#$😁 .Sometimes God let’s you watch.

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Prayers for you and your child. It is your business who he brings into your child’s life. And if he had any sense at all he would tell you. Stay strong and I agree with the other ladies as well when they get visitations set up the sooner the better!

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I would imagine that this girl has been in his life for awhile now. You just found out about her. You don’t have any control over any of this so you need to start taking care of yourself

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