My ex husband passed 12 years ago: Is it weird to date his cousin?

I was married for nine years and had 3 daughters from that marriage. He and I divorced 12 years ago, and he passed away earlier this year. Well, his parents had a bbq to celebrate his birthday, and my girls and I were there. While we were there. I ran into his cousin Todd and we sort of bit it off. The cousin lived in another state, so he didn’t get to visit much. We want to try dating, but I’m not sure how our families and my ex-husbands family will take it. I haven’t felt this way about someone in a long time. I lost my fiancé last year to cancer, and I haven’t wanted to try dating again until now. I just don’t know what to do. Would any of you ever date your ex-husbands relative??

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Do what is best for you and your kids. No one else’s opinion matters.

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He had been gone long enough, enjoy life ,as you know it’s to short

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Don’t see anything wrong with it!

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Whaaaaaaaaat?? Sorry to me that’s a no go zone. You dont screw the crew and that’s your kids crew

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Go for it! You deserve happiness

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It’s not like it’s his brother, and it’s not like you just divorced this year, I feel like it’s been long enough, and you deserve to be happy.

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I think it’s fine. Good for you

Absolutely nothing wrong with it! Go for it!!

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That would make any children you had with him your kid’s sister(brother)/cousin.

To me, any family member of your ex is off limits. They always will be your kids’ family

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Life is too short…go for it & be happy!!!

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I think it’s fine… what ever your heart wants

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Thats a No No, if hes your ex husbands cousin then you are already related to him, and you cant marry your own in laws its disgusting

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Go for it you deserve and it’s not his brother so I think it’s ok. Life is to short.

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Absolutely not total disrespect.

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With the bf I’m dating now I dated his cousin first so not bad at all tho with my bf ex his cousin dated her which was kinda weird

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If there’s a connection I wouldn’t deny it because of cultural stigmas or judgements. He’s a soul, your a soul.

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I mean your kids could be made fun of… No one wants to be from the family of fucking cousins. Even if it isn’t your blood…

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What ages are your children? I think so much of it has to do with their feelings about the “cousin” part. You’ll live with them for the rest of your life. Check their thoughts on the matter. In-laws come & go. Good Luck & Live Your Best Life​:shamrock::two_hearts:

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Asked you children what they’re think and if it’s ok with them go for it but make sure to ask them.because if they not happy about it you wants be.

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