My ex is constantly causing drama and trying to make me jealous: What should I do?

What do you do about a co-parent who often causes problems for no reason? We broke up almost four years ago, and from day 1, he always tried to start drama and make me jealous. We broke up for good because he hooked up with my childhood friend, and also had an affair while I was pregnant with #2. He finally moved on about a year after we broke up, so I thought it would stop. But just today, out of the blue, he emailed me at least a dozen photos of himself and his new girlfriend together. He also sent a message declaring his love for her and saying he never loved me compared to her, that I’m ugly compared to her, and among just other unnecessary comments. Now, again, this was out of the blue. I haven’t talked to him since last pick up and as far as I knew everything was fine. This happens every now and then, even though I actually do my best to be extra nice to him and his girlfriend both. I invite them to parties, I’ve invited them to school functions, and I was also really generous in court considering his history with his kids and his own personal background. In the beginning, he just wasn’t the father he should have been at all, but I will admit he’s gotten a lot better that way. How do I go about making co-parenting civil with someone who just won’t even try and starts drama out of the blue for fun? 3rd party communication? We have shared custody, he has them every other weekend, and after four years, I just got my first month of child support. It’s just draining constantly having someone in your life causing drama, and if it’s not causing drama, its name-calling and cut downs for absolutely no reason out of the blue. I’m tired of it because I know I don’t deserve it, especially with how hard I’ve worked since day one and dedicated my life to our kids.

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Why not block him???

Screenshot everything and show to a lawyer. He can get in trouble for doing that. Or show the screenshots to your courthouse and they will make it so he can’t do that, and if he does he’ll get in trouble.

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I would try and block him or talk to your lawyer about it cause no one should have to deal with unnecessary drama like that. Also show your lawyer the emails and stuff.

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I would ignore it or just let be like " so happy for you!" Also if screen shot and save everything without saying a word.

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He’s still hung up on you otherwise he wouldn’t even stop to think about you. Just ignore him. No communication unless it’s about the kids and if he starts the name calling that’s the end of the conversation.

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I thought I wrote this😂 I have very similar happenings to you!!

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Cut that shit out. Tell him that unless it pertains to the kids not to send you nothing. Block him if you need to get the point across. Save all of it just in case though.

Ignore it. Tell him you two only need to talk to each other regarding the kids. If he starts on about his drama then hang up. Don’t reply to emails but save them in case you need to go to court over it. I went through a period with my ex husband where we did just that. And usually only a text because we could not have a civil conversation.

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I’d forward it to his new girl and ask her to talk to him. If she’s a WOMAN she wouldn’t have that shit. Real WOMEN don’t deal with pettiness of that sort. Better yet, I’d reply, cc her, and ask him why he feels the need to do such a thing.

Just block him lmfao. If you didn’t like the attention from him you would have already done it

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Well, he doesn’t love her at all if he’s doing that. He loves you. He’s just a 12yr old abt it.
Block him unless it’s abt the kids…
You can always be really cute and pop off with,
“Umm, ok? Good for you.”
“Hope you’ve learned abt the G spot since then”
Or, “Its so great you were honest abt being a cheater and she’s ok with you possibly bringing home a STD and being disrespected. Good luck to you both!!” 🤷

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Why not just delete the message and move on. Stop inviting them places they can live separate lives and still have kids together. Not rocket science.

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Get a mediator for anything that has to do with the kids. Then block him from you phone, email, and all
Social media

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Save all these messages for next time you go to court and they will make it a problem for him :woman_shrugging:

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What an asshole, block his ass. Obviously, he is trying to make you jealous and maybe tell him it’s not working and grow the fuck up!

Tell him congrats and leave it alone. He wants you to be bothered, so don’t be.

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The courts now have an app where you can converse with other parent and its monitored and the judge takes into account people’s behaviors in the app

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Ignore ignore ignore. He’s looking for a reaction. Forward them to his new boo and be done with it.

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Ignore him. Or take him to court and insist on you two using “My Family Wizard” as they only method of communication.

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