My ex is getting out of jail early: What should I do?

I received a letter saying that my ex is going in front of the parole board for early release. He has been in jail for less than a year and was sentenced to 3 for physical assault, violating my restraining order and other charges. This is not his first run-in with the law. Since he was 16, he has spent more time on probation or in jail than out, and he’s in his 30s. Most of the charges are for the exact same reasons he’s in there now. I was stupid and saw the "good " in him. But the question I have is the letter says I can write a victim impact statement and to express my concerns and fears. Do I write things like my elementary age child is just starting counseling to help with her fears from the emotional and mental abuse due to what the child has been subjected to? Along with a lot of other stuff I have in notes. Or do I stick to I feel he will not change and that I am just scared he will find me again? I just don’t want to screw this up by putting too much or too little. I have called the ADA who sent me the notice but have not heard back.

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Tell them every single reason why his release will be detrimental to you and your child.

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Honey, join this group and ask there. You’ll get no victim shaming and most women have been in your position, including writing a victim impact statement. It’s a closed group so no one but the group can see your posts.

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write them how you feel. and what the trauma effected your child. write how you would fear for your safty.

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Do a mix of everything you think is important. Express your biggest fears, inform them that this has impacted your child so bad that she is in counseling, your opinion on if you think he will change or not. They will take your statement very seriously because of you being the victim

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No. You explain exactly what hurt he’s caused to everyone around. It’s not your decision if he gets out or not so you need to list legit reasons he’s in there

You need to go to the parole board meeting and tell them what he did to you and why he shouldnt be released

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Yes a victim impact statement should be very specific so list all the things. And make it clear that you are frightened for your and your child’s safety should he come looking for you.

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YES! And a statement from the dr wouldn’t hurt.

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Just because he’s up for parole doesn’t mean it will be granted, and you should have a right to speak to parole board.

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All of the above and more, like your sleepless nights and starting another relationship, how your child is having counseling just everything ok

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Might wanna check in with your restraining order. Yes write everything down and send it in. If your in fear and your kid is in fear do everything in your power to keep him there the 3 years. Don’t ever think there is too much. If your that scared for your own safety and your child. Do it.

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my personal opinion? Pack up and move. To another state. Somewhere far. Find a man that will support you both, and home school your child so the social isn’t tagged.

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Write letter asking them not to release him for yours and daughters safety

Its sad i will say this a friend of mine was murdered by a man that she play games with he slit her throat from ear to ear and shot her in her eyes because she lied at his appeal hearing in front of the board u have to remember it dont matter how long u keep them there they will one day get out with the same vengeful for hatred its sad people think they doing something ur only stopping the inevitable temporarily

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Both of you write a letter

Write the victim impact statement. It’ll keep him in there longer. Hopefully. Tell them you fear for your and your child’s safety and well being if he is realeased

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Learn how to defend/protect yourself. Whether it’s now or later, he’s going to get out. He’s already violated a protection order once and may do it again. You’ll need to be able to keep yourself safe if he does because a protection order is simply a piece of paper.

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Everything that is a result of the crime should be part of your VIS.
Emotional, physical, financial, social life, work life damages … ALL OF IT!

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If you still have a restraining order he broke it by sending you the letter. Save that&envelope and bring it up in court &be specific on what your concerns would be if he got out right now! Hope everything goes well :purple_heart:

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