My ex isn't seeing our son: What should I do?

Hi! I’m 17 years old, and I have an almost two-year-old son. His father and I recently got back together when things turned very bad. He would hit me and call me names, but then it turned into him calling our son names and telling him to shut up every time he cried. After a while, he would push him and be very aggressive with him. I ended up leaving. I filed for child support, which led to being blocked on everything and a long message saying I was a bad mom and pretty much how much of a pos I was for doing it. He has court-ordered visits every other Saturday from 11-6, I had to download a text now app to message and ask if he wanted to get him, he didn’t respond to me, but I made sure I sent it another time, and he didn’t answer. He did this the last Saturday he was supposed to get him too. I am done trying, and I am at loss of what to do, should I stop all contact or keep trying to get him to see his son?

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Let him message u do NOT chase him. Hes obviously no good for you or your son.

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What a loser he is. He is wasting this experience. If he really is like U say U r far better off without him! And so is your kid!

Document every time he refuses to in case you end up back in court but I wouldn’t force it.

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Nothing I’m sure you 2 are better off.

Let it go babe. You and your kid are better off.

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I would not push it if he’s treated your Son bad in the past.

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If he is abusive to your son when you are around are you sure you really want him to be alone with him? If he doesn’t want to see him why push it sounds like your son would be much better for it

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Go after him for child support and full custody

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Keep all proof of you contacting him. Just dont push it. If he goes to court and says stupid stuff then you have all the texts but the ball is in his court and if he doesnt want to play then let it go.

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Why would you want him to be in your son’s life if he was being aggressive toward him?
Protect your child and let it be

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Don’t force him. Don’t make someone be a parent when they don’t want to be. That’s how children get hurt

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You can’t force someone to be a parent. :confused: it’s really sad, but you and your son will be better off in the long run. You shouldn’t have to beg someone to be a part of their child’s life.

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Keep all records of your messages to him and if he responds in any negative way. Then go back to court and try to get visitation taken away from him. Your son don’t need to be around someone like that!

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Dont chase him you cannot make someone be a parent and honestly I wouldnt want my baby going with someone who has been aggressive with them that’s how babys get hurt. So I wouldnt bother contact.

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If he’s abusive to your son why would you allow him to see him unsupervised

He’s lucky he even gets that amount of visitations if it was me he never see his son again for pushing him and being abusive can’t force someone to be a father nor should you in this case walkway let that man get help and prove himself that he can change his behaviour before he can be a father

You can’t and shouldn’t force a man to be in his child’s life. My son’s father doesn’t see him and it’s better that way. Especially if your son’s father is abusive. It’s not your responsibility to establish or foster their relationship. No contact is the way to go.

Depends is he still toxic… I think leave him alone assume he wants nothing to do with you or your precious boy… it’s his loss love I promise you stop thinking of the dad get him out of both ur lives n u will both be happy

Stop trying. He is abusive in front of you, he’ll be abusive to him when he’s alone with him. I would NEVER let him see him.

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