My ex keeps tagging me in things that make me uncomfortable: Advice?

I have three kids. Their biological father is not in their life due to being constantly in and out of jail. When I left him, I got into a relationship with a close friend of mine for five years (been friends since literal kindergarten), and he has always been good to my kids and welcome to get the kids even now. We kind of drifted apart and ended the relationship on good terms, so I didn’t think much of it to keep him in the kid’s lives. I’m married now, though but, he hasn’t contacted me about the kids in about a year and all of a sudden started tagging me in things on Facebook that is relationship related to " this reminds me of us " as the caption above said post. I don’t want to hurt his feelings, I want my kids to have him in their lives still, but all of these are not kid related, and I don’t want him to send me anything like that anymore. How can I tell him to not send me stuff like that in a nice way, or should I take him out of our lives completely? It’s been about a year and still has not said anything about them.

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If he’s your ex I’d unfriend or block him. Problem solved

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I’d be honest with him about how you feel

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If he’s tagging you, remove the tags. But more importantly, as he’s a friend, ask him not to tag you in those posts. If they continue after you ask him to stop, then unfriend/block him. Another alternative is to hide his posts and directly view his page when you want info on what he’s been up to.

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I’d let him know that you and your husband aren’t comfortable with the post/tags, you can stop tags all together, or you could/should delete him from your life. How does your husband feel about this?

Im blunt​:woman_shrugging::joy:… Just tell him to knock the shit off.

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Set your privacy settings to where you have to approve tags to go on your timeline.

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He can’t tag you if you aren’t on the friends list.

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Just be honest with him. Do not take him out of your childrens life entirely over this. He has probably just realised he still loves you & hoping you feel the same way. Yes, it’s inappropriate because you are married but it is rather mild and I think if you were honest he would stop.

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Block him? Just because you have kids with the dude doesn’t mean you have to have him on your social media.

If he hasn’t asked about your kids in over a year, there’s no need for him to be in their life

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Everyone is saying block him put him out of your life it isnt that simple when kids are involved even if they arent his kids, he may be all these kids knew for a long time… Id tell him to knock it off but make it clear that he is still welcome to be apart of the kids lives

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Easy go to settings > timeline and tagging > from there select the option to approve tags. He can’t tag you if you don’t approve it :wink:!

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I’d be honest with him. Your married and those posts are inappropriate. He might have been in the kids lives but if he went a year not asking or talking to them bringing him back in will just confuse them. He isn’t their bio dad and he doesn’t have rights to them so if he doesn’t listen to your requests I’d block him

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He hasn’t bothered to ask about them in a year it’s long overdue to cut him off.

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He hasn’t reached out about or to your kids in a year. If he hasn’t no interest in being in their lives I wouldn’t be fighting to keep him in theirs your kids don’t deserve someone like that. Sounds much more interested in getting with you than fixing things with them and you’re married, I’d just cut off contact with him honestly.

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I jwould let him know that if he doesn’t want to discuss the kids then you have nothing in common. You could also let report FB for harassment, maybe?

Be honest with him and explain the situation and if the activity does not cease then you can block him

Block him? Like duh.

Soooo…I hate to ask, but are y’all “older”? He might not understand how FB works, and what tagging implies. He might just like to repost happy memories. I had a spazzy older friend make a tribute post to an ex-boyfriend from a long, long time ago. It was totes creepy, and I’m sure it made him uncomfortable, but she didn’t mean it that way. The post was deleted pretty soon. I’d say just talk to your old flame, and see if he won’t stop it. It could be innocent.