I have a question for all the mommys who have gone through a separation or divorce, which ended in a custody battle. My soon to be Ex-husband claims I am an unfit mother and told me if he took me to court, no judge in their right mind would give me the kids. No, let me lay out some back story. This is the man who left us in May of this year and hasn’t had a job since March. I have worked fulltime jobs all year to provide for the children on my own with no help from him. In the last seven months, he left for Indiana and was stranded for three days I bought him an emergency plane ticket to get back for the girls. He then went back to popping pills and drinking like a fish and lying he got caught breaking into a friend’s house and wasn’t reported on it. A few weeks later, he got so messed up on drugs he went off the deep end and was in the hospital and went to rehab for the drinking. He spent three days there, and they released him. (This was also after he had almost complete kidney failure in may) Not even three days later, he attempted to kill himself I then had to go and find him and take him to the hospital where he admitted to the doctors he was on all kinds of drugs from meth to smoking weed. This was just a couple of months ago. Now he broke off out marriage saying all that was my fault not even two days after that he showed up to my house and Adderall and some other drug he took because his friend said here try this and tell me if it’s good. Now he is telling me he will take my kids away. I have been working 30 hours a week while 18 weeks pregnant to provide and care for my two other children. They have piles of toys, diapers, and good food. His mother’s house where he is staying is a death trap. He doesn’t have a job nor a car or driver’s license: no car seats, high chairs, sippy cups, or playpen for the little one. Now mind you, my two children are 3 1/2, which isn’t biology his he has been in her life since she was six months. Our daughter is 1 1/2 he claims he doesn’t need all those things because they are plenty old enough to sleep where ever and eat where ever.
Um yeah. No judge in their right mind will give HIM custody. I doubt he’ll even get supervised with doing drugs and stuff. You’re good
Yeah he’s crazy! They will not take your kids. Keep yourself and your babies safe.
Empty threats I say let him try
Most states is 50/50 now and if you tell your lawyer everything you posted here they can make it sound good on paper. Visitation may be changed. Technically…don’t worry.
If the children are well provided for, well looked after, no judge will separate children from their mother. He definitely won’t get custody. He has probably said that as a threat to hurt you xx
No judge will give him custody. If they drug test him he won’t even be allowed visitation
If there is documented evidence that he is on all of those drugs (which there should be if he told doctors and was admitted to the hospital/rehab), there’s no way a judge wouldn’t laugh him out of the court room. You’re good, honey. Just make sure you document everything/all interaction with him.
Document everything. He will.get supervised visits reguardless however just.be honest and.dont bash him in court just explain.nicely why hes unfit.
He has no chance, but you need to be documenting everything. Try to get any medical records of his you can.
Oh honey…he is just spitting words at you hoping something will stick to scare you…trust me although I dont believe it to be right, most judges will side with the mom, and in your case it’s a no brainer, so calm down it sounds like he knows that his ass may get no visitation if he is as down and out right now as you say.
Do u have proof of this?
Him going to rehab? Witnesses
U will need it in court
Hes all talk
U file 1st
Put the visitation time u want him to have. If supervised.
Ur relationship is over
U qont be able to civilize parenting time outside of court with this type of personality
He can just take him with him to another state… so file 1st do he abides by parenting schedule and doesnt violate it
File for child support as well
An addict and mentally ill person will say ANYTHING to try to bring those around them doing the right thing and living life the right way, Down because they know deep down that their life isn’t worth much when they aren’t willing to get help. Get a EPO and keep doing the right thing Mama! You’re doing great!
Don’t let him bully you!
Mental manipulators like this man (definitely not a father to your children) will say anything to you and use anything against you to gain or keep control of you. Stay Strong mama - be a advocate for your babies and take care of yourself…
Why are you even listening to someone who’s high? Common sense says he won’t even get visitation
He is just trying to manipulate you because he knows the truth! My ex did the same thing but instead of actually “taking him away”, he left and we have not seen him in 12 years…it was for the better!
Why are you even worried about it? Obviously he’s out of his mind
It comes down to proof. What you can actually show same with him. Technically he don’t have to have all the playpen ect because they are old enough to sleep in a bed and eat what everyone else eats. It’s all in who can provide a stable home.
Keep a notebook of everything! No judge will take your kids,and give to a father who clearly needs help.