My ex wants my son to meet his new girlfriend he just met: Advice?

My boyfriend of four years and father of my last son up and left us two weeks ago and suddenly moved in with another female and her three kids over 5 hours away. We were together up until he left us while I was at work. As I know, he’s only known this female who is now his girlfriend for a week on the internet before leaving our son and me. He is asking that I let my son come where he is so he can see him and spend time with him. I’ve said no because I feel as he abandoned him for a female he’s known a WEEK. I’ve worked the WHOLE time while supporting us, and he hasn’t worked at all the whole time we have been together. Everything I’ve paid for the WHOLE time. I am beyond hurt, and besides that, my mom just passed and refused to come to support me and help me with our son while I’m grieving. He just wants to take my son five hours with his new girlfriend instead of coming here to help me. Am I wrong for thinking he should come here to help me? He hasn’t even known this female for a WEEK. I’ve had this back all four years, bailed him out of jail, paid fines for him, supported him all these years, and he couldn’t even come to keep me and help with his son? Please post

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Yeah, its a no from me

He sounds like he’s going through something and may be a bit unstable. If he really wants to see his son, he should bring himself back to your city and visit his son. No matter how or when the relationship between you two ended, a week old girlfriend is too new (in my opinion) to introduce to the child. I’d tell him that you’re not comfortable with someone that new who both of you don’t even know, meeting your kid. Keep your son home with you for HIS safety.

It is amazing that you stayed with him as long as you did since he has been a deadbeat for years. Are you willing to consider a neutral area instead of internet girl’s house?

NO! Get a custody agreement in place because he can steal your son.

I see a lot of comments about mom and dad’s rights here… Every child has a right to know their parents and have unhampered access to them. Whether they parent like you, whether you like their partner or not. Children will love their parents and receive their parents’ love, no matter what kind of parent they are. And if you’ve ever worked in social services, you can attest to the same. You have an obligation to ensure that your child has that need met. And that they are afforded that right. So long as it is safe and healthy, you have to err on the side of caution, knowing that harm would be caused to them by denying that right. If it’s unsafe, you need to seek a court’s permission to limit or restrict that relationship. If you guys cannot come to an agreement, mediation is another great option outside of court.

You cant hold your feelings towards your ex against him and his child. I would go to court bc if he doesnt want to give your child back he doesnt have to because it is also his child. Get it court ordered visitation with you having custody and ask for child support. But like i said any ill feelings cant be brought up to/around child nor using child bc of the ill feelings. Good luck…heartbreak sucks but you deserve better.

You were married you both have 50/50. Unless he’s a danger which isn’t the case or you would have left him possibly or mentioned that. Children aren’t pawns to be used and to hurt others. You end up hurting the child. Your feelings toward him don’t matter. If you talk bad about his father. He will hear you. And could end up resenting you for it. You need to control your anger and emotions and do what’s best for the kid. Not what you want

While it hurts and you feel abandoned imagine how that kid also feels. Get chid support take him to court and let the judge decide. As a child who’s been there. It’s sucks. You will be hurting him

You cant hold your feelings towards your ex against him and his child. I would go to court bc if he doesnt want to give your child back he doesnt have to because it is also his child. Get it court ordered visitation with you having custody and ask for child support. But like i said any ill feelings cant be brought up to/around child nor using child bc of the ill feelings. Good luck…heartbreak sucks but you deserve better.

Personally I had a rule that after I split from my ex if I met someone else I wouldn’t introduce them to my daughter until I had been seeing them 6 months - I don’t agree with kids being involved too soon.
If I was you I’d try to seek legal advice about your rights, he is still the boys Dad so he is entitled to see him BUT after his behaviour I would say on your terms. It’ll be too confusing for your son one minute Dad is in the house then he’s away and now he’s with someone else.

Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My ex wants my son to meet his new girlfriend he just met: Advice?

I wouldnt let him id say f*** you

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Go to court and get a visitation agreement until u have that tell him to fuck off, secondly don’t ask that man for help he doesn’t care I’m sorry but he doesn’t and u r better off without him

What he does and who he interacts with on his time with child aint your damn business unless she has record of child abuse a judge would laugh.

Part of it sounds like you’re still hurt. You could allow him to spend time with his kid if he drives to see him but express your concern and try to discuss the girlfriend meeting him later on when they’ve been together a little longer.

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You’re right to refuse. You don’t know anything about this female so you should be wary. Make him take you to court for visitation.

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You already know the answer!

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I agree with u 100% no he hasn’t done nothing for or ur son big fat no

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Nope he left . Move on and he visits his child at your location

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Sounds like my baby daddy. Fuck all that noise. No, don’t let him take your son or allow that.
Why are you asking for help?
Venting, I understand.
He can see him when you say, he left. Fuck that