My ex wants our daughter overnight on Christmas: Advice?

My ex wants to have our 2.5-year old daughter overnight at Christmas. I’m worried because I’m not sure if my daughter will be comfortable enough to be able to sleep in his family’s house where he stays now. I want to tell the ex to have her during the day, but I don’t want him to think I deny him more time with our daughter. This ex left us three months ago, which left me really broken and traumatized. I’m mostly okay now, but I still have this irrational fear of seeing him, I don’t know why. Since he left, he only sees her about 2-3 times a month (either 1-hour visit or he takes her to his family then brings her back after 4 or 5 hours). Sometimes almost three weeks go by without any visit or text asking how his daughter is doing. So, I’m just wondering if I am overreacting in worrying about my 2.5-year-old spending the night in a house where she barely knows the people, even if her father would be there or her. Thank you.

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Let him keep.her until bed time.

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If you’re allowed to take her to your families home he should be to. This is her dad and she knows him. That’s all that matters.

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just let him. if he isn’t going to harm her& you trust him. Give yourself a well earned break. He needs to allow you that life as well.

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Pfft the little time he sees her I wouldn’t be putting my daughter through that.

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You can’t deny him if he’s a good father- and the child is safe. Just as he can’t deny you

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Honestly wouldn’t do an over night stay if you don’t feel it don’t just do a visit.

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I don think its a gd idea 4 her 2 stay as she still needs u. The little time that she has with her dad i wouldnt put her through that.

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You have her one year and he has her the next teach your daughter right .

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Given the fact you’re questioning on FB about whether or not you should let him have his child on a major holiday because your feelings were hurt says quite a bit about why he hasn’t had more visits.

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She’s his child aswell as yours let her go she will be able to bond with him more.

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You don’t withhold because of your feelings. It’s his kid too.

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I think you should do what’s best for your daughter. Every child deserves time with their father. It’s about her, not you.

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He is her father and if he’s not a dead beat, you can not deny him time with her. You don’t have that choice unless it’s all through court and they agree with you!

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He is her father. Yes she should be allowed to spend the night with him. It’s about her, not your feelings. He is just as much a parent as you are.

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No i would not let her spend the nite

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If the child can say anything that would be an answer “I sleep with mommy/mommy house” or “I sleep in my bed” then no child is not ready to sleep anywhere else… my 3.5 year old has only slept over one person’s house… mainly bc I know how my son is…

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I mean she can only get comfortable by spending more and more time. He has every right to her as well. You will be way more affected then she will be. Had to leave my son to give birth, don’t even know if he noticed we were gone. Lol

Let him…how is this an issue? If he is regularly in her life she should know who he lives with…

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She’ll be fine, let her go.

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