My ex wants to keep our kid for 6 months straight: Advice?

I moved thousands of miles away and then found out I was pregnant. I had our baby, and he came down right after he was born. He’s not quite a year yet and has made one more trip to see him. But he has no idea when he’ll see him next. He made a lot of promises to us to be there, to do the right thing for us both, but then hasn’t. I told him I think the best thing in this situation would be to see about a relationship between us, and if it works great, and if not, at least we tried. I think it’s always best for a child to grow up in a home with both parents. He has a girlfriend now and does not want that, which I can respect. But he seems to think that he can be involved in our baby’s life when he’s old enough and can go to him. His idea was for me to raise him for six months, and then he can for six months. I don’t agree with that, and I’m not sure what other options we have in raising him so far apart. I’ve also expressed I don’t want him to come and go in his life when it’s convenient for him. He’s made no effort to support him in any way. Fathers are important to children. I want him to have his father. But I also don’t want him hurt because he doesn’t know who his father is or only knows him as coming in and out. Any advice?

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Oh hell no. Not 6 months at a time! Baby would be so confused.

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Unreasonable. First father should visit child in your home, but not stay over with you, and gradually become familiar with the child, increasing visit as the child grows older.

I think you should help him get established in the same place you are if he wants to be a part of his son’s life.

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No tell him to video chat when he feels the urge to play daddy! Your son deserves more.

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He need to move closer to you or just make the effort to see the child.

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Time to file for child support

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I understand he’s dad but the circumstance isn’t like you took him away from him. I’d offer him some other way.

He should move closer. If that’d what he wants… No way would I allow that and how confusing

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It’s called co-parenting for a reason. Why can’t the dad have him half the year? As a mother I can be honest and say I would be hesitant only because it would be hard on me (not the kid)

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Careful , there are states where ,if he has possession of the child, he can go to court and get custody. Make sure you have a court order in place in the state you live in before you let him take that baby anywhere. And 6 month at a time? Careful like I said. Know the laws in the other state.

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Nope, he can move closer if he wants to see his child.

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I would be very careful and get court papers stating what was going on, that way he doesn’t try to get you for deserting the baby. And why can’t he move to where you live so that he do the co- parenting that way? Instead of 6 months at a time, no judge in their right mind will allow this, cause a baby needs their mother if he is still an infant

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Tell him no. It not ideal for the child if he wants to be involved he needs to move closer.

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No Way! He and his girlfriend can move closer to you. Was his name on the birth certificate and has he taken a DNA test?

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He’s the father he has rights also. You should allow him to be a father. Sometimes being a parent isn’t about what is in your best interest but the child’s. It sounds to me that you are only thinking about yourself.

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So, what happens when school starts?

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I co parent just fine. But 6 months straight nope not happening

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Well you contradict yourself when you say he hasn’t supported you yet YOU moved thousands of miles away and he came to be with his son. It seems to me like you want a relationship and he doesn’t. In most states since you are the one who moved it’s your responsibility to pay for the child to see his father. I think it’s pretty selfish of you to move thousands of miles away and then claim the man isn’t there for his kid. You made that choice. You could move closer or let a judge decide what’s best. . It seems you are more concerned with the dad the focus needs to be the child. Maybe not split years but in the state I live in the judge ordered every other month when the mom pulled this stunt

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Can’t believe you are asking strangers For such a private matter

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