My ex wants to sign his rights away: How does this work?

Hi well I had a question, I have two kids a 1.5-year-old boy and an almost-four-year-old girl when I was pregnant with my second I left their dad due to cheating well we were living in Mexico with him, and when that happened I moved back to Colorado he stayed with the girl and had their son a month ago he called me today saying that him and his wife thought it was better for him to sign away his rights since he is on their birth certificates and I need signed letters from him for like passports, school, traveling, etc. and he doesn’t want any more contact with us I said yeah it was better that way since he doesn’t call or help or have seen my kids a year. My question is how do I start that process? Do I have to get a lawyer? Can he be removed from their birth certificates and have his last name removed too? And if it’s possible to remove his last name, should I? I don’t think it’s fair to do that to my kids, but my family is saying by signing his rights it means he doesn’t care

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You have to have a step parent willing to adopt them before a father can sign their rights over

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I think your best bet would be to get a lawyer because they will know the laws where you live. As for changing their last names if he doesn’t want to have anything to do with them why should they have his name. When you talk to the lawyer I’d ask about that process as well. It’s better to do it while they are young before they really know their names. Then there would be less confusion

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If he wasn’t married to you, he may not have any rights period. Don’t let him fool you in the trap where he shouldn’t support his children. He doesn’t want to be caught up financially, the only thing he needs to sign for is maybe a passport and that’s it.

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The courts just dont sign over rightscthat easy he will have to be served papers and he have to sign off on last name

No just Get a lawyer let him know what was said and have called the proper documents you have a court hearing and he’ll his rights taken away

Best bet check your state laws. Tell him if that’s what he wants then it’s up to him to do. Not you. So in the long run you can show the kids he gave up on them his choice not yours

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Go to the court house and file for it. They will give
You what paperwork you need. If he’s willing to sign you don’t need a lawyer. I never had a lawyer going to court for custody stuff. You can change their last name just ask the courts after that case is done with how to go about it.

Get an attorney. Without a step parent it is a little harder, but it is possible! Absolutely hire someone to help you, or you’ll go insane.

I’m in this process (but with a step parent).

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He is still obligated to financially support the kids he made

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Wasn’t this already posted a week or two ago? :face_with_monocle:

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I’ve seen post before… like recently…

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Every state has different laws but signing their rights away does not necessarily exempt him from his responsibilities depending on the state you live in. You should speak to a lawyer usually first consultation or 30 minutes is free. ( not all lawyers do this so inquire first)

If you’re also on ANY state aid, Medicaid or food stamps here can’t sign off… i wouldn’t let him and i would make him pay support. And it’s a bonus he’s too far away for visits

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Usually the courts do not approve of the father signing away his rights unless you have a husband who wants to adopt them. They believe that the children deserve to have 2 parents legally responsible for their care financially and won’t let one sign off unless another is petitioned to pick up the responsibility

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In Wisconsin- you need someone else to adopt them.

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What’s going on here is he has a new family, and his new GF/wife doesn’t want him giving any of his time or money to his old family. He is, in effect, telling you he doesn’t want the kids, doesn’t want to be a part of their lives, and doesn’t want to get caught up in child support issues. He doesn’t want to be financially responsible for your kids. And his new GF/wife is pushing him to cut all ties.

Get an attorney.

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He can give up custody and let you have full custody but he can only sign over his rights if there’s somebody in place to take them AKA a stepparent… There has to be somebody in place ready to adopt those kids in order for him to sign over his rights otherwise just tell him to sign over full custody to you

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My first step would be to get a custody agreement in place. Get full sole legal custody of them that way If they wont let him sign away his rights for any reason you dont need shit from him no letter, no permission. Not sure which state your in but I’d definitely talk to a family lawyer most have free consultations and can point you in the right direction. P.s. screw him. I’m sure you and your kids are better without him, he’s missing out.

Is this copypasta??:grimacing::face_with_monocle: I’ve seen this exact post before in here word for word…

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