My ex won't tell me where he lives so I have no idea where my son is: Advice?

My son is 7. He is supposed to go with his dad every weekend, but he goes every other weekend (his dad decided to only pick him up every other weekend). His dad gave the courts his mom’s address (a one bdrm apt, which is not where he lives). I was ok with it because I did my own research to find out where he lived. But I did alarm the court that he gave them a bogus address. He didn’t know I knew. Now he has moved. I don’t know where and he won’t allow me to get behind his car so I can get a license plate. So now I’m sending my son with his dad, and absolutely no one knows where he’s taking him for the weekend. My son is completely off the radar when he’s with him. I am not comfortable with the fact that no one knows where my son is when he’s with him. What if there was an emergency? I don’t want to send him anymore but my son would be crushed if he didn’t see his dad. What should I do? He’s determined not to be found by anyone or have anyone know where he reside. I wouldn’t care, but I feel a mom should know where her child is at all times.

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Yeah, thats not okay at all. you have a right to know where your child is

Do you have his phone number? Maybe you should talk to a lawyer to see what you can do

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In Texas…he could be found in contempt of court for doing that mess.

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While he doesn’t have to give it to you directly, court paperwork filed needs to show his current updated address. Most counties require a prior notice before moving.

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Have a friend park behind him at pick up? Maybe walk buy snap a pic? May follow a little? :woman_shrugging:t2:

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I would be contacting a lawyer and going back to court or if he’s not answering the phone I’d call the police say you cant contact him and your trying to check in on him

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Bring it to the courts attention

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Your best bet is to contact an attorney to determine what you are legally able to do.

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Sorry my kids aren’t going in a car I don’t know or a house I don’t have an address for

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Legal advice from lawyer

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I would have someone park close by & follow him when he left. I would find out where he was taking my son one way or another.

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Get tile off Amazon put into your sons bag

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For the present, maybe get him a smart watch with GPS or something similar? You should speak with your lawyer for sure. That would make me crazy

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If it’s going through court then the court should have the correct address. I would speak to a lawyer, especially seems u know he has moved from the address given or it wasn’t correct an this should be updated on his behalf in case he doesn’t bring him back etc. so they know his address.

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Stop sending your son with this Moron for Brains.

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It’s his way of controlling you. I went through the same s*** turns out he rented the house four blocks away from me. He had every neighbor in my community watching me. He had the neighbor around the corner with cameras on his house that would tell him every time I left my house. He only did two visitations. Both of which I had to purchase the groceries for his home so my kids would be fed. It’s all a control tactic. Just settle it legally. Also when he would not do his visitation he would just pop up at their school they claimed that that was his visitation because he would have lunch with my kids. Such head games I hate men that do this to their children. It may seem like he’s doing it to you but in all actuality screwing your son’s head up

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I would NEVER let him go if I didn’t even know where he lived. Your kid might be crushed but he will be alive!

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My ex never tells me where he moves to either, I have to get the location from my daughters phone

If your son has a iPhone turn on location settings - my son is 9 his dad has every other weekend so I make sure his phone has locations set on at all times I can see where I son is

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