"I need advice from a third party. My husband and I had to move to a hotel. We have a two-bedroom, and my husband sleeps on the floor, and our boys sleep in one bed, and my daughter and I share the other bed.
Their grandparents are trying to make it harder for us. They suggested our kids LIVE with them Mon-Fri, but our kids and I do not want that! They hate it over there and now have made threats of calling CPS…
Fast forward a day, and they wanted to keep one of our kids, and we said no. We just moved to this hotel, and I need our kids to get situated. So they decided to threaten us again with CPS and make a call…
My question is, can they do anything? My husband and I don’t do drugs and are both working and have money, food, clothes… everything for our kids. Why are they being so hateful, and why can’t we be left alone? Can I do anything to counter their claim on us??? Thanks."
TOP ANSWERS (AS SELECTED BY MODERATOR):
“If that’s the whole story, you shouldn’t have anything to worry about.”
“State cannot interfere if the kids are safe in that environment and you can properly care for them there.”
“CPS/DFS will not do anything about living in a Motel/Hotel. As long as there are no drugs, kids are fed and clothed everything will be fine. Keep calm and drop those grandparents, they shouldn’t be making threats like that. CPS/DFS are there to help families who need the help, not to threaten because they don’t like something you did.”
“They can’t do anything and shame on them for putting you through this. You both are active parents and trying your best is not of their business. I would cut them off entirely and let CPS come there is nothing they will do besides possibly give ideas on housing.”
“If they do call CPS I highly doubt anything bad will come of it. As long as the kids have a roof over their head, food in their bellies, a bed to sleep in, and clothes on their back then it should be fine… Sometimes you just have to do what you feel is right. Plus, if the kids tell CPS they don’t want to go there I doubt they will be forced to.”
“Let them call. They can’t do anything they are being provided for and are in a safe place.”
“I’d be cutting them out of my lives.”
“As long as you are taking care of their needs, food, shelter, and clothing, you’ll be fine!”
“If anything CPS would probably help you. I live in Canada and have had Child services in my life when my son was first born and instead of being a negative aspect in my life they actually helped me with many different thing. Pointed me in a direction if I needed food pointed me in the right direction if I needed mental help and I’m pretty sure if I was homeless living in a hotel they would probably point me in the right direction to get back on my feet as well. I’m not sure where your from but I really hope you guys get back on your feet. All the best.”
“I live in Oklahoma. When my ex’s parents tried that over and over, (we stayed 60 days in a motel while renovating a house we bought), DHS finally told them there was nothing they can do because they were housed, fed, and not being neglected. I also learned through this process that, at least in this state, you DO NOT have to let them interview your child without you. They will argue and call their supervisors but they will just be told to let the parent stay. Good luck with everything, and don’t let anyone bully you.”
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