My Family Had to Move Into a Motel and My Kids' Grandparents Are Threatening to Call CPS Because of It: Should I Be Worried?

QUESTION:

"I need advice from a third party. My husband and I had to move to a hotel. We have a two-bedroom, and my husband sleeps on the floor, and our boys sleep in one bed, and my daughter and I share the other bed.

Their grandparents are trying to make it harder for us. They suggested our kids LIVE with them Mon-Fri, but our kids and I do not want that! They hate it over there and now have made threats of calling CPS…

Fast forward a day, and they wanted to keep one of our kids, and we said no. We just moved to this hotel, and I need our kids to get situated. So they decided to threaten us again with CPS and make a call…

My question is, can they do anything? My husband and I don’t do drugs and are both working and have money, food, clothes… everything for our kids. Why are they being so hateful, and why can’t we be left alone? Can I do anything to counter their claim on us??? Thanks."

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TOP ANSWERS (AS SELECTED BY MODERATOR):

“If that’s the whole story, you shouldn’t have anything to worry about.”

“State cannot interfere if the kids are safe in that environment and you can properly care for them there.”

“CPS/DFS will not do anything about living in a Motel/Hotel. As long as there are no drugs, kids are fed and clothed everything will be fine. Keep calm and drop those grandparents, they shouldn’t be making threats like that. CPS/DFS are there to help families who need the help, not to threaten because they don’t like something you did.”

“They can’t do anything and shame on them for putting you through this. You both are active parents and trying your best is not of their business. I would cut them off entirely and let CPS come there is nothing they will do besides possibly give ideas on housing.”

“If they do call CPS I highly doubt anything bad will come of it. As long as the kids have a roof over their head, food in their bellies, a bed to sleep in, and clothes on their back then it should be fine… Sometimes you just have to do what you feel is right. Plus, if the kids tell CPS they don’t want to go there I doubt they will be forced to.”

“Let them call. They can’t do anything they are being provided for and are in a safe place.”

“I’d be cutting them out of my lives.”

“As long as you are taking care of their needs, food, shelter, and clothing, you’ll be fine!”

“If anything CPS would probably help you. I live in Canada and have had Child services in my life when my son was first born and instead of being a negative aspect in my life they actually helped me with many different thing. Pointed me in a direction if I needed food pointed me in the right direction if I needed mental help and I’m pretty sure if I was homeless living in a hotel they would probably point me in the right direction to get back on my feet as well. I’m not sure where your from but I really hope you guys get back on your feet. All the best.”

“I live in Oklahoma. When my ex’s parents tried that over and over, (we stayed 60 days in a motel while renovating a house we bought), DHS finally told them there was nothing they can do because they were housed, fed, and not being neglected. I also learned through this process that, at least in this state, you DO NOT have to let them interview your child without you. They will argue and call their supervisors but they will just be told to let the parent stay. Good luck with everything, and don’t let anyone bully you.”

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State cannot interfere if the kids are safe in that environment and you can properly care for them there.

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I don’t believe they can get CPS involved unless the kids are being abused or it’s an unsafe environment

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Let them call. They can’t do anything they are being provided for and are in a safe place.

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If that’s the whole story, you shouldn’t have anything to worry about.

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I’d say tell them to go ahead and try, and if it’s possible, cut them out of your life for a while.

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If you’re providing for your kids they can’t do anything.

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They are not living on the street so theres nothing that can be done. You are providing for them, the state will not interfere.

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I’m not sure what state you live in, but here in Indiana CPS might come inspect your rooms, but that’s it…As you said, you have everything you and your children need, you aren’t doing drugs and you both work. CPS is overworked and underfunded, you should be just fine.

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I may be mistaken but I’m pretty sure clothed fed and roof over their head. No abuse you are not in the wrong at all. Cps will not do anything they may make a meeting to come see the living conditions aren’t horrible but other than to touch base and check in they won’t take your kids. Keep providing for your kids. Don’t worry about anyone else.

In Alabama cps will come investigate but as long as there’s food and water and electricity oh yeah the hotel is clean they won’t do anything

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Nope, let them call. They are fed, clothed and cared for which is all that they will care about. It is not a crime to stay in a hotel with your children.

CPS/DFS will not do anything about living in a Motel/Hotel. As long as there are not drugs, kids are fed and clothed everything will be fine. Keep calm and drop them grandparents, they shouldn’t be making threats like that. CPS/DFS are there to help families who need the help, not to threaten because they don’t like something you did🤷🏼‍♀️

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Nope cant do squat…clothed,fed and roof

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I wouldn’t worry they can’t do anything just cause your in a hotel as long as they have what they need and food they can’t do a dang thing

Tell them to make the call cps will have to follow up with the call but if the conditions are as u say nothing can be done… If they do call then I’d cut off all contact from them for even putting your kids and u guys through that

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Let them call as long as the kids are good taken care off have food clothes etc on what they need cps cant do a damn thing bout it. When me and my oldest son sprem donner broke up he called them more then once on me and my husband and they didn’t see nothing wrong.

Depends on your local welfare laws. Here: a hotel is not considered stable permanent housing and would be grounds to remove the children from your care until you find an apartment or home to live in.

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We recently had a foster placement from a hotel situation, the grandparents was the one who called. However they would never had been removed if the parents didn’t fail drug screens and have drugs in the room with kids. Besides that the kids had a roof over their head, food in their belly, just wasn’t in a safe environment. So as long as that is the entire story you have nothing to worry about.

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They can call but as long as you are taking care of them, they are not abused and the hotel is not a dirty place with bad people they won’t get much from the visit