My family is against me moving in with my boyfriend: Thoughts?

Hi, I wanted to post a question. I’m a 21-year-old single mother of a two-year-old living with my grandmother. My boyfriend and I have been talking about moving in together and have decided it would be a good idea. We agreed that I would move three and a half hours away to stay with him. However, my parents a very much against it. My parents and I are very close, and my dad has helped me a lot financially, so it’s tearing me up to have them against me like this. It’s making me start to wonder if moving in my boyfriend would be worth losing my relationship with my parents.

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Why are the against it? Sometimes parents see things we do not.

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Your gonna roll your eyes at me, but here goes…yes, your an adult and you can make your own decisions. But I wouldn’t. Your still only 21. Your parents are clearly seeing something they don’t like. Listen to them please :purple_heart:

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You have a child and strong family ties… he should move to ur area

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How long have you been with your boyfriend? Why are your parents so against it?

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Listen to your parents. They are more than not right. Trust me.

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You’re 21 and you make your own choices. If that’s what you want then go for it. Good luck :+1:

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Unless he is the father of your child I wouldnt , family is forever!! boyfriends are temporary :woman_shrugging:

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Why would you move away from your main support sysyem? How long have you guys been together? Im gonna guess it’s not the childs father which raises statistics on things going badly. Why rush before a commitment of some sort , and why not live closer. Don’t isolate yourself and burn bridges , men come and go and you’ll always want to have family to fall back on.

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Have him move with you, i would.

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Maybe they see something you dont because your all “young and in love”. Talk to them, see what they say. You only get 1 set of parents. If they have always had your best interest at heart, then them saying NO might be something to wonder about. Is he the father of your child?

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Family is everything in raising a child.
If I didn’t have family close I’d be screwed to rely on my husband… but that’s a whole different subject

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There’s obviously a reason they’re disagreeing with the move. Take a hint.

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What will your support system look like when you move 3.5 hours away from your parents and grandmother? Why can’t he move closer to you.

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He’s 3 & 1/2 hours away. Where did you meet him. How long have y’all dated? Have your parents met him?

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No o wouldn’t move in with him listen to your parents

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I literally moved states with my boyfriend (now husband) to stay close to my parents. I would 100% talk him into moving closer to you. Mind you, we picked up and went. No jobs. Just bought a home. It was a nightmare, but we wouldn’t of had it any other way. Parents are so important.

BUT this is just my opinion and what worked perfectly for my family.

why is he not asking you to marry him?

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I wouldn’t. Your parents have your best interests at heart

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Your parents see things you don’t. Listen to them.

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