My family is pressuring me to breastfeed; Thoughts?

I really have questions/need to vent. I am about to give birth. I have been fighting with myself back and forth about breastfeeding or formula feeding. My entire family is pressuring me into breastfeeding, and while I want too. I am not sure I can mentally handle that right now. I suffer from mental illness and have been medicated most of my life. I stopped taking medications while I was pregnant and want to start them right after I give birth, but if I do, I know I can not breastfeed. These are the only meds that have ever helped me, and I know I need them to cope. Pregnancy has been super hard without them, but I wanted to ensure my baby was healthy, so I just dealt with it. But I don’t know if I can cope with the emotions of being a new mom and not being on my meds. My family will be so mad if I formula feed, but I need to think of myself. What would you do?

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Breastfeeding is an amazing thing that you can do, but you can’t do it if you’re not 110%. I would personally say that if you feel that you need the medications please go back on them and do not allow the pressure from the family to sway your decision

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Do what is best for YOU. Formula fed…breast fed…doesn’t matter as long as baby is being fed.

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There is no choice there. You need to he healthy to raise a healthy baby. You said it yourself you know you need it. Your family needs to be supportive. Fed is best mama

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It is ultimately YOUR CHOICE if they are mad, so what? You do what is best for YOU and your baby!

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Fed is best. What ever works for you.

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Honestly? Just relax and ignore everyone. Having a baby is rough. And at first they feed constantly. Try it but if u feel u want meds i suggest you take them or you could suffer an episode…

You need to take care of you! Your family need to back off and YOU need to do what you need to do for you! You cant be healthy for your little if you’re not healthy for yourself.

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Do whats best for you

Have you looked into the meds to see if they will effect the baby if you breast feed? I wouldn’t worry ti much about your family being mad if you formula feed nothing wrong with it

Can’t take care of a baby if you don’t take care of yourself. If you can, maybe give your baby some colostrum right after birth. Then start back on your meds. Formula is fine and your mental health is very important.

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Do what is best for you! As long as your baby is being fed, that’s all that matters. You also have to keep in mind that you have to take care of yourself in order to take care of your baby. Don’t let your family pressure you or make you feel like any less of a mom because you want to formula feed.

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A FED BABY IS THE BEST BABY!!! My fiancé and I both agreed we want to breastfeed for at least 6 months. Our baby is 4 months old and I’ve gotta start supplementing with formula because I went back to work when he was 4 weeks and I took a major hit in the supply area. I’ve been struggling with this a lot, but I’ve realized that so long as my little one is fed and growing, that’s all that matters!! And your mental health matters too! You have to care for yourself in order to care for your baby

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A happy baby is a fed baby. A good and healthy mama means being you’re best you. If that means you need your medication then you need it. Mental health is no different than physical. Please do whatever you feel is going to make you the best. If you reaaaaallly want breast milk look into a milk donor.

Remember that no one knows what you’re going through but you.

Your baby will benefit from breastfeeding. If you can, it’s an amazing choice. (I’m sure you already know that)

***But your baby will benefit more from a happy mom.

Take care of you. Your baby will be fine either way :slightly_smiling_face:

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I would just give it a try. If it’s not for you, it’s not for you :woman_shrugging:t3:

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Worry about yourself right now.

Your baby your choice. Both my kids we’re formula fed and they are as healthy as can be. Don’t let others pressure you into anything.

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Another option is to bottle feed donated breastmilk.

I’ve watched my friends ex wife go through something similar and it was a huge mess. To the point of child neglect. I say taking charge of your mental health should trump any concerns from family. Postpartum hormones with an already unstable mind will not help anybody.

YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS IMPORTANT TOO. Formula is a lifesaving invention.

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