My family wants my ex to sign his rights away: Advice?

My husband and I have been separated for three months now. We have a 3 yr old son together. We both know it’s over. We are now waiting to sign the papers when both of us have agreed to what is in the documents. With that being said. Both my parents can not stand him. (For good reasons) the three years after my son was born, he never paid for diapers or formula that was on me. He never wanted to spend time with him on his days off. Now that we are separated, he wants to spend all the time he can with our son. I, personally, am not opposed to this. I truly believe his dad just wants to have a relationship with him. Both my parents are totally against the father having anything to do with our son. They want him to sign his rights over (I know extreme). I am currently living with them to save money and figure out what to do next. How do I convince them it’s ok for my son to see his father? I hate the stress they are putting on me in the situation? I guess I should also say. He was very emotionally abusive towards me for the seven years were together. I don’t think he would do the same for our son. Or at least I want to think the best of the situation

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Its between you and the father. You dont want your child to resent you for keeping him away.

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Remind them its between you and your ex and has nothing to do with them. And that their grandson probably wants his dad

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YOUR son not theirs. They can state their opinions, but it’s YOUR choice.

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It’s in the best interest of the child regardless of your unfortunate relationship

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It’s noones business but yours and the fathers. And even at that, if you say your baby father is wanting to spend more time with the son - Best case scenario he’s wanting to make up for lost time and I’d say most definitely would not want to sign his rights away.

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Me leaving my ex husband was the best thing I could do for my kids relationship with him. He was the same as your ex, barely involved at all despite us being married and living together. Now he is a great father and they are his world.

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Tell your parents to mind their own business. They already raised their kid(s). They should let you raise yours

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Parents cannot just sign away their rights anyways. That’s not how things work anymore.

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You can’t make him sign away his rights and neither can your parents. It’s not about you or your ex, your child deserves a healthy relationship with both his parents. Parental alienation does not just hurt the parent that’s being cut off, it hurts the children too.

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Explain to them that if roles were reversed and they were getting separated when you were your sons age and someone was trying to convince the other to sign their rights away how would that make the other feel? Explain that your decision impacts your sons life forever. Explain that your son is not their child and it is your responsibility to do what is best for him and you think it’s in his best interest that his dad wants to be involved to let him be and let them establish that bond

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Your child’s relationship with his father is just as important as the relationship your child has with you. Don’t take that away from him. You May have had a bad relationship with him, but that is your relationship not your child’s. There is a chance that he is a better father without you. Sometimes it’s like that. Your parents need to stay out of it. I can’t stand bitter people that hurt someone through the child…The child is the one who gets hurt. You do what is best for your child.

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How old are you? Get the divorce, get child support, and your son NEEDS to know his dad, your parents have no say!

You can always tell them he’s not doing that and it would be next to impossible to have a judge do it unless he has seriously fucked up and they have lots of proof.

Otherwise they didn’t help make him so they don’t get a say. They need to support his relationship with his father or he will resent them

My ex was going to sign his rights away and courts told him unless another person was going to adopt our son he could not “just sign his rights away” not sure what each state law states but if you have to give your parents some bullshit law as an excuse to keep the pressure off of you.

Tell your parents to mind their business and they will not let him sign his rights away unless someone is willing to adopt him anyways. So it’s a no go. 🤷

It’s between you and the father, but if he has an attorney, he’s been advised to spend as much time as possible in order to pay the lowest possible support.

I don’t think your parents have a say in this at all. You say your ex was emotionally and I’m going to assume mentally abusive and you don’t think he would do that to your son, but do you think he could talk disrespectful about you to your son? I think if he actually wants to spend time with his kid that is great, but in your legal custody agreement he also needs to be held financially responsible.

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Good luck getting rights terminated if hes not in agreeance. I wouldnt even entertain the idea unless he was willing. Judges wont leave children “parentless” I do foster care and they’re big on that

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It’s not up to your parents.

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