My fiance and I had a fight and he thinks we should split up: Advice?

My partner and I had a fight Sunday. We have a two-month-old daughter and live in a house together. We were happily in love, but we bicker, and he says he hates that I have an attitude when I get mad. We both work full-time. We fought Sunday, and he told me Monday afternoon he didn’t want to be with me anymore. He says he is tired of my attitude, and then he says we don’t have the same vision, then that we both are not happy and that we don’t love each other. What do I do? I stayed somewhere else last night and went to get some things from home. Should I stay home and try to talk to him or just wait for him to try to talk to me? He won’t answer my calls or texts, and I don’t really know if I want to let him see our daughter this weekend because I just feel he’s so cold-hearted and won’t give me an answer if I see him I would just be the same. What to do?

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If you have the home together why do you have to leave? I’m assuming you have the baby, stay in your house. Keep the baby in her home. If he wants to leave, let him leave, but don’t keep someones kids from them because you are mad at them.

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Let him go. You can’t make someone love you.

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The one thing you don’t do is use your daughter as a tool in your arguments

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Let him come to you.
And more than anything… never keep a child from their father unless they are in harm. Good luck!

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First impression is that you’re wrong to hold your child from him. Unfortunately it sounds like he may he happier without you and being apart may help him be the best dad he can. If his heart isn’t into the relationship, dont force him. If you’re opinionated/strong willed and he cant handle that, that’s ok. He can move out and keep baby safe and happy if her home.

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If you keep your kid from him you are beyond a bad attitude!

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You cant stop him seeing his daughter just because he doesnt want you anymore.

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Sounds like he’s over the relationship let him go. Him not giving you an answer isn’t justification for you to not “let” him see his daughter. That’s his daughter and she deserves to spend time with him.

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U should not stop him from seeing his child just because he is being cold to u idc if people think its mean its tru

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Regardless of whats happened between u both its still his daughter to and no reason to keep her from him thats just spiteful

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So you are going to use your child to get back him. That says it all. No wonder he doesn’t want to be with you.

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You can’t keep your daughter from him… that’s child abuse/neglect. That is her father regardless of your guys current disposition. But I know if someone says that to me. It’s done. Move on… he never loved you. … because if he did. .he still would. … you can’t just fall out of love. .

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Could exhaustion be a factor that is causing the bickering at each other, on both sides? I notice that you have a 2-month-old and you both work full time. I’m wondering if you are both over tired, aren’t thinking rationally due to lack of sleep and the argument has escalated. Would some time apart and a reflection letter help? A letter where you write to him telling him how things look from your perspective, how you feel, what your “attitude” is about etc? Best of luck with everything. I hope it all gets resolved with the best outcome for the three of you!

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Go back to your house. Even if he doesn’t want to talk your baby and you live there. Second I’m sorry but maybe he has a side chick. His acttitude is suspicious. Give him some time to see if he cool of and talks.

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You cant use your daughter in a argument. Hes gave you his answer nasty as it sounds now you’ve gotta work out routine for your daughter and seeing her dad.

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Please don’t start keeping the child from him just because you’re upset .
He’s upset too … Using the child against him isn’t going to help your situation or make him love you.

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Unless he’s a danger to the child you don’t ever withhold his kid from him. That’s just wrong.

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Your baby is two months old. You’re exhausted. Things are changing. Go home. Let things cool down. He still doesnt want to work on it after that the he can go, but you shouldnt up root your baby who is practically a newborn

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Don’t put your child in the middle of it. She’s innocent in all this and still deserves to see her daddy.

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