My fiance flipped out on me because I was going to breastfeed in public: Advice?

So I have a question about breastfeeding in public. I am totally okay with it. My fiance initially told me he was okay with it. Out of respect for him, I intended to cover up while feeding. Well, today, we were planning on going out to eat, and I said I would probably have to feed her while we were there. He flipped. He said it’s disrespectful and slutty. He justified it by saying there are too many creeps in the world. I told him I was gonna cover-up. Needless to say, we aren’t going out to eat anymore because he was pissed. How would you handle this situation? I’m furious.

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Take the baby and go out to eat.
He can eat but the baby can’t :thinking:

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How is feeding your baby in any way sexual? It is what our bodies are designed to do. I’d go out without him and grab a friend.

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That’s horrible. He needs to be considerate and understanding that your baby needs to be fed. That’s the priority. Breastfeeding is by far not slutty and he should be mature enough to know that.

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I wouldn’t be engaged any longer. Disrespectful and slutty? To care for your child? That language and response is a red flag for me.

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slutty?! the only disrespect i see here is the way he decided to talk to you. if he would of said he was worried about all the creeps in the world and can you cover maybe it’d be different. i’d go out to eat by myself with the baby

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You should be pissed. That’s completely ridiculous.

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He needs to grow up. Breastfeeding is a natural thing. It is not sexual.

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Get a new fiance…how dare he slut shame you for feeding your kid…

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Go by yourself with baby. Screw him

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I would of went out alone and fed myself and my baby!! Slutty is def not the way to describe feeding your child. I’d reconsider the engagement.

Oh hell no!! He basically called you a slut for saying you had to feed his child in public.
There needs to be a long talk about this.
A talk that could actually make or break your relationship but definitely can’t be avoided.
Is actually pack the baby up and go eat without him.
Let him fend for himself and from this moment forward let him figure out his meals since he can eat whenever and however and his child can’t.

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He’s not your husband! He’s just your fiance and showed you exactly who he is a verbal and mental abuser. Only God knows how much worse it’ll get. To call you slutty for something as natural as feeding your child is disgusting. Run now while you can!!

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I’d be furious too and hope he cooks then

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Wow! That’s ridiculous! Mmmm… his remarks are embarrassing and extremely offensive. I would be pissed too.

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I’d start by dumping him and fighting for as much custody of your child as you can. If he calls you slutty for feeding your child, then God only knows what will happen next.

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I’d keep it off Facebook and discuss it in private again…hopefully he would appreciate your keeping this to one another …hopefully you two have a good communication relationship it may go better perhaps?

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Not cool in any way shape or form! He needs to grow up! What did they do b4 bottles? That’s why we as women have breasts and give birth if it was men they’d starve and who know what else! And he can eat but the baby can’t

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Major red flag! Major disrespect!
If he cannot accept breasts are designed to nurture a baby, and calls you ‘slutty’ for breast feeding while covering up, I would definitely re-evaluate your situation! GTFO while you can before he isolates you from friends and family completely.
Your baby comes first! Hugs​:sparkling_heart::kissing_heart:

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I breastfed each kid for a little while before going to formula. Had problems upkeeping supply anyhow. I never breastfed in public. I don’t like the idea of showing off body parts like that. I would pump before leaving if that was the case.

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