My fiance has treated me wrong many times and I am starting to have feelings for someone else: Advice?

basically I’ve been with my fiance for eight years he’s done me wrong hundreds of times, and I’ve just stuck by him. We have children together but its not like what it was before, anyway we started to get to know some new friends earlier this year, and we’ve become very good friends with a lad and me and this lad have so much in common, and I get butterflies thinking about him and we sit up and talk on the PlayStation and play games all night, he has been flirty with me and I’ve done it back but not in a obvious way. He tells me I’m his best friend and he’s always there for me whenever I need him he’ll help me, and we’ve become very close to the point my partners starting to say something about our closeness, I don’t know what to do like I cannot stop thinking about him but I don’t want to tell him even though I know he possibly feels the same he doesn’t want to go behind my partners back and upset him, and I don’t want to tell my fiance sorry, but I really like your friend? And if we were to tell each other and everyone was to find out it would start a lot of trouble x

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Ur a product of what you tolerate!

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My recommendation would be to end one relationship before beginning another

Honesty is the better way ? If you’re seriously not happy r haven’t been for period of times then be straight up n truthful I’d say ,

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Honesty is the best policy darlin Xx much luck to you

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Always go with your heart! If you are unhappy in a relationship its always best to be honest with him! After that you can see where the other relatinship will go. Dont intermingle the two thats not fair to any of you! Good luck and god bless!

If you’ve felt this way for a long time walk away…don’t just stay because of your kids or financial issues …that would be using him til something better came along …if that’s how you truly feel don’t waste your or his time …or maybe your in a rut and need to do something together??

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Weather you have feelings for someone else is irrelevant. Why would you tolerate abuse and for so long. You and your children deserve better. What are you teaching your children. What type of example are you setting for them? Focus on getting a healthier you by leaving behind the trash. You need to heal.

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Ugh. I’ve been in this situation. Think long term and think about the children. You also may want to have a face to face conversation with your fiance about it too. The truth is hard but doing the right thing is the best thing.

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Finish one chapter before you start another.

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Bullshit! You’re looking for excuses for your behaviour.You need to stop ANY contact with this man immediately and either fix or finish your current relationship.Might not be physical yet but your pretty much already cheating😠

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You have children, but play on PlayStation all night? Seems a little strange but fair play to you. End one relationship before you start another. You’re having emotional affair by the looks of it. Make up your mind.

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It’s better to bring it up n b open than to have him find out the hard way. It’s going to suck either way

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You sound codependent.

Building the motivation to leave someone by finding someone else is an inability to tolerate and love yourself enough to move on.

Youll do it again, and again.

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It appears that this newly formed friendship is making you explore and remember different enjoyable areas of your life. It is exposing the deficiencies in your present love life. Well you only live once so go with who is treating you right! But ask questions and do not assume that this new friend shares ur feelings. Be well but first and foremost get away from the abuse! ASAP!

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I think you might better think long and hard about what you are doing.The grass is not always greener on the other side.

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You have no problem with him for the entire 8 years, but now realize u r just tolerating him when this new lad appear. Leave him because u wanna leave him, not because of this new guy.

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Could be lust though, hes giving you attention and making you feel things you probably havent in a while. If you really like him, end it with your guy and take time before you jump on the wagon.

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And this is why when you’re in a relationship that isnt good you should value yourself enough to leave. Not stay and wait until someone better comes along and you put yourself in this situation. Leave bc you’re not happy period. Otherwise you’re just settling and end up cheating. You’re already there emotionally and mentally

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Honesty is the best policy.