My fiance wants to adopt my son but my family is against it: Advice?

My partner and I have been together for six months, but she has been more to me than anyone ever has in my entire life. Has accepted my son as her own. The bio dad wants to sign over his rights, and I’m perfectly fine with that. But my partner wants to adopt my son. The way I see it is, he will always have two loving parents. No matter if my partner and I stay together or not. The dilemma comes into where my family doesn’t want her and I getting married, which she just proposed, plus they don’t want her to adopt him. I think it’s not their place to voice their opinions as they have been super obsessive about my son since he has been born. Advice, please.

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I would get married and wait a year or two before adoption.

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While they can voice their opinions because it is their grand child…ultimately not their choice…its your and biological dad,with of course ur partner

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They wouldn’t have a say say at all.
It’s up to you & you and your partner getting married is really great

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It’s between 3 persons… Your partner, your son and you. No one else.

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I don’t think it should matter what anyone says if y’all love him and want to give him a good home together and raise him then do it it’s about y’all’s relationship with him and how well y’all provide for him not anyone else

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Maybe a few years into marriage but only six months together may be far far too soon.

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I would wait to see how your relationship works for a while 6 months is not enough time to learn a person

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personally i would wait … it would be nice for you to have the marriage be separate event, later have a special celebration for the adoption.

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I’d say maybe wait longer than being together for 6 months.

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It’s a wonderful idea but maybe something to do in like 5 years time not in 6 month. Think that is way to quick what’s the mad rush to marry and adopt if you plan to stay together forever than why rush the serious things

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Six months? Your child shouldn’t have even met this person yet in my opinion. You don’t know someone in 6 months. No one has earned the right to my child in that time either. I’m with your family

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It’s too soon in my opinion, BUT it’s not anyone’s business. It’s your decision…and the court’s.

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Look into the laws of the state as well, here in Arizona you must be legally married for 1 full year before adoption proceedings can even begin. I personally dgaf what my family thinks about my partner and our relationship, it’s my life, as long as they are good for my daughters and treat me well then its none of their business.

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Six months is WAY too quick… what’s the rush?

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Maybe after being with her for 6 years I would consider letting her adopt your son… it’s been six months you can’t even know a person in that amount of time. Plus why is she rushing all of this? She can still love your son without adopting him. It’s really just a paper anyway.

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6 months is not long enough … also might be good to wait until the child is old enough to decide …:

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Its only been six months. Slow down.

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I would honestly wait a couple of years before getting married or having her adopt your child. You never know someone until you live with them for a number of years. Keeping the relationship going the way it is would probably be the best thing for a few years. But it is your decision regardless of what others say.

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They don’t get to make a choice in this situation, you do. But 6 months? You can’t really know someone after 6 months or even two years and this is a huge decision…

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