My friends 20-month-old doesn't talk at all: Thoughts?

I have a friend with a 20-month-old, and the baby has 0 words. The baby is one of the happiest kids I’ve ever met, and when we stick to a routine, he has FLAWLESS DAYS. When he gets mad, tho or not his way, he pounds his head into things, and I really think that has to come down to communication. Her doctors for the baby and her family and I have been pushing her to get him tested and maybe speech therapy. She wants to wait till he is two or possibly 3 bc she wants to see if he will start to talk on his own Any recommendations.

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Mind your own business 💁

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Tell the pediatrician ASAP!

Not your baby. All you can do is make a suggestion. It’s up to her. 🤷

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My best friend has a double doctorate didn’t talk until she was 5

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Make the suggestion that she get an evaluation. It can’t hurt.

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I am sure your heart is in the right place and you have made your thoughts known to her but at the end of the day it is not your child and you need to respect her decision.

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Have the child screened for autism.

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Maybe autism my youngest always been quite but we waited on him now 3 he’s finally talking and speaking small sentences and we are about to get him tested for autism my oldest was a little behind and really struggles socially but other then that he’s ok he has autism my e year old is very smart and so is my 9 year old some are a little slow at first but once they get a grasp of the situation they really take off from there is say leave her be right now and see if it gets worse and also look for signs of autism or ADHD

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I didnt talk until I was almost 3

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4 out of 5 of my children didn’t speak until age 3 or 4. One due to hearing loss, one due to Autism, and two just because :woman_shrugging:t3:. They all speak perfect now and only two of them required speech therapy. Some children just don’t want to speak.

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As the parent of a special needs child I can say early intervention makes a difference. As a mother I’d like to say while you may have the best intentions let her raise her child. You don’t get to decide her timelines or what’s best for her child. Put yourself in her shoes.

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She can start teaching him signs, but 20 months isn’t abnormal to not talk. Or to have issues with feelings and communication. You can suggest and encourage whatever you want, but ultimately you have to just mind your own business :slightly_smiling_face:

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Different children speak at different rates. But hearing can slow it down. Mine is 3 in 6 months and still only says a few words. That is due to a medical reason

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Well, it’s not your child and it’s not your place to tell the mother what to do for her child. You might not know that the mother could already be fretting about it and talking to doctors but not disclosing anything to anyone because she wants to know what’s going on first.
I worked with one child who was non verbal until he was almost 4. Some kids take longer than others, just be patient and if your friend comes to you about it just be there for her.

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I had the same issue with my 20month old son. She needs to ask the general gp to check the babies ears. My son had fluid behind his ear drums. Which caused them to have no movement which ment no hearing. It can be as simple as that. I paid a lot of money for a peadiatrician for no answers.

Honey all I can say is let the mom handle it.

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My son wasn’t speaking much until he was around 2.5 then the floodgates open and he just started speaking like he was doing it all along. Has he had his hearing checked? I understand her wanting to wait it out, some kids just need a little time and it doesn’t mean anything is wrong.

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Mind your own business! All kids are different some talk earlier then other some of them talk later then others :woman_facepalming:t2::expressionless:

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Well, not to be an ass, but not your kid.
Also, my nephew is 3 and still doesn’t talk. My oldest nephew didn’t talk until he was almost 2.
Both are smart and healthy and my oldest nephew never shuts up :woman_shrugging: