My husband and I have been together for nine years, married for almost 4. we have a two-year-old together. He gets invited to hang out with his friends to go to vegas or bowling or game nights but always insist the invites are for him only and doesn’t even bother to ask if he can bring his wife along. I know his friends. I’ve hung out with them before. i’ve never given him any reason to not have me around them (as in i don’t make him change how he acts or make him stop drinking at a certain time) the only thing I’ve done was say we need to go home at a certain time because we have a kid at home with my mom. I’ve stopped doing that because we live with my mom and our daughter now sleeps through the night, so she doesn’t notice we’re not there. But my question is since we’re married, should invites include us both? Even before we were married, I always tried to invite him to places with my old friends, but he never wanted to. He says sometimes he just likes hanging out with his friends himself but sometimes is all the time. And it’s not just him and the guys when he gets invited. It’s him and guys and girls. So it’s not like I’m going to be the only girl.
I would not be ok with that at all.
He’s hiding something if you can’t go along with him and there’s other females around
He should be entitled to boys night just like you entitled to have a girls night. You don’t need to be with your husband 24/7. Spending time apart is healthy and ok. It’s ok to do some outings as a couple but not all the time. That’s just me though
He should have his friends and you have yours and both ya should be able to your thing when you with them and vice versa
Hell no id be pissed
My husband does things with his friends and I don’t care. It’s healthy for a marriage. Been married 37 years. I have my friends, he has his friends and then we have friends together.
Go be with your friends.
“Doesn’t let you” wow. Change your mindset girl. YOU let you hang out with your friends.
Your husband is an ass hat and a sleaze ball. What is he trying to hide? And since when does he need to allow you to do something? He is not your owner. Grow a pair lady.
You better open your eyes lady it’s 2019 we don’t live in the stone age
I mean does he ever ask you?! Because IMO that’s shitty especially if you need out of house but maybe when he goes next time plan something with a friend too it only makes more sense that you both get your free time and a break or w.e may be
My hubby and I don’t really do anything apart unless he’s hanging out with my dad or his best friend which is married to my sister so were never not together lol
Oh na honey I would not be ok with that. There is something going on!
Sounds like he is cheating. I’d get more into it
Don’t ever give up anyone for someone who doesn’t appreciate you if he isn’t inviting you then what is he doing that he would want u there
Red flags but no proof. If it were me, id do real check up on things. Perhaps you should start investing in you. If he eventially leaves emotionally or physically you will have already done the hard part.
I don’t know him so there may be norhing to it but face value, but my gut says no.
That’s a major red flag in a relationship.
I might be crazy but here’s what I would do… if I was you I would by a wig, a hat and wait for him to go hang out with his friends ( follow him but not too close ( if you’re scared about that download a tracking app on his phone)) if they go somewhere public find a spot that you can listen to them without being seen. If they go somewhere private hide and listen. Like I said I might be crazy but knowing is better than not knowing
And get with those friends ONLY IF THEY ARE REALLY GOOD FOR YOU. MANY FRIENDS ARE NOT IN THE END… JS
Invite yourself and find out exactly what the fuck he is up too.
I’ve honestly never hung out with his friends. I’ve met them and their nice, but when he goes to hang out that’s his time. He has done group things with my friends when I’ve asked, but otherwise that’s my time. I don’t really see a big deal unless you think it’s more than him just hanging out with friends.