My husband admitted to watching porn when it is against our religion: Advice?

My husband recently admitted to me that he had watched Porn on and off since we were dating. We’ve been together for five years, married for 3, and have two babies. We are both Christian and have the view that Porn is wrong. We’ve had the conversation many times over the years where I’ve asked if he’s watched it or was tempted to, and he always said no except for this last time, when he admitted it. One of the times he said he watched it was when we were engaged but living in different states at the time, and we were fighting, and the other times were when we went through a rough patch last year and were fighting a lot. I was pregnant with our second son last year during that time. Another thing is, in the last two years, he hasn’t been wanting to have sex very often, always saying it was because of tiredness, back pain, not in the mood, or because I didn’t initiate, etc. Backstory- my husband has always had a problem telling me the truth about things because he’s afraid of my reaction, he says, and he would just rather avoid an argument, so I appreciate him finally telling me the truth. But on the other hand, I feel so betrayed and hurt. He says he’s been trying to stop on his own, and that he’s ashamed of himself, but he has temptations or thoughts about doing it still. We do plan on seeing our counselor about this. But until then, how do I cope? How can I ever look at my husband the same way again? I don’t want even to be touched by him… I love him so much, and I want our marriage to work. I’m just so scared I’ll never be able to move past this, or he’ll never be able to. If anyone’s been through something similar, please help, thanks

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Girl, its porn. You’re being controlling and crazy.

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It’s just porn, not like he actually cheated get over it!

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Lol it’s just porn. I’d be upset if he were cheating but getting this upset over porn is crazy. If that’s the worst he’s doing consider yourself lucky

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Porn is fine. Maybe you should watch some too and learn to unwind a bit. Relax.

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Would you rather him watch porn or nine months from now have childsupport knocking on your door? 🤷

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I couldn’t read it all. I had to stop at “we are both Christian and have the view that porn is wrong” :joy::joy: he clearly does not have that view lol
Unless he is completely addicted to it to where you get no attention, let it go or let him go. It’s really not that big of a deal. It may not be your thing but he is clearly not against it.

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Sometimes, I feel like these are made up scenarios.

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Ok… I know you have your religion. But takes that put of the picture. I watch porn… does that make.me a bad person. Does this make your husband a bad person. He is human. He isnt cheating. You need to think of him as a person the whole picture. You cannot base the way you feel about your husband because of what your religion says

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Next he won’t be able to even breath :rofl: some women can be so controlling .

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So what?! Do you really follow everything your religion teaches. Ot better he watch porn and masturbate than go out to someone who would watch it with him without judgement.

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All I can say is… its porn… not a big deal seriously…

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Skyla Schwalm don’t even want to be touched by him

I mean it’s not like he would ever have sex with the ppl and it’s better than him doing it with other women.

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Oh wow lol it’s not like he’s touching an actual person. You’re completely over reacting.

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Hes probably lying to you because you are over reacting about something as minor as watching porn.

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Obviously he doesn’t think porn is wrong :joy: it’s you that thinks it wrong, he agreed to shut you up so he can go watch his porn

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I’m a Christian and my husband and I watch it all the time. We have great sex and have been together 34 years. Put some spice in your life and try it out.
I guarantee you’ll love it. Maybe it will help your relationship last longer. Just a suggestion!!!

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Jesus said love everyone even those porn watchers, they need the most love.

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Your issue is best addressed by those who share your and your husband’s religious beliefs.

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