My Husband and I Are Having Issues in the Bedroom: How Can We Fix Them?

QUESTION:

"I’m 24 years old, and my husband is 28. We don’t have kids yet. About one year ago, my husband took meds for depression for about six months. During that time, his sex drive was almost non-existent, which was to be expected.

However, it has been about 4-5 months since he stopped taking meds, and even though he has a sex drive now, he doesn’t last long during sex (not even a minute sometimes). It’s frustrating for both me and him.

So what can we do about that and if we should see a doctor, what type of doctor should we see?"

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TOP ANSWERS (AS SELECTED BY MODERATOR):

“Not sure if there’s a lot of men in here. But, exercise and diet are huge, especially in recovering from depression or emotional trauma. Eating properly portioned meals, and exercising at least three times a week for about 30 minutes. Also, his body is still rebounding from the pills. Just let him know you love him and you’re there.”

“He really needs to see a doctor. But until then, invest in some toys. You guys can use them together. The right vibrator will work WONDERS. Once you orgasm then let him jump on in and get his. Good luck.”

“My ex was a minute man, but quick on the rebound, I would do things for him then he would do things for me then once ready we would go at it, it helped. Just keep going at it be patient and understanding when a sex drive diminishes due to meds it takes a while to come back. Lots of foreplay helps also if you are unsatisfied learn to use toys, as a couple.”

“One thing is sure. The more you do it the longer he’ll last. It’s called building stamina.”

“Talk to his primary care physician. They should be able to help and if not they should refer him to someone who can. But if he’s done in a minute then he’s taking care of. Get a little creative: try toys, oral, and/or some hand actions to get you to the finish line.”

“Be patient. When I was at my lowest with depression, my sex drive was non-existent for at least a year or so… Have him talk to his doctor about what he could do, and/or start seeing a therapist. Things will get better, I can promise you that. It may not be immediate, but he’ll get there”

“Foreplay. Practice edging? Make it about intimacy rather than climax. See a sex therapist. Get yours before he goes in to get his.”

“Maybe have him wear a condom? Cut back on how much he’s feeling.”

“My husband started edging to help him last longer. He now goes about 20-30 mins.”

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My husband started edging to help him last longer. He now goes about 20-30 mins.

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Get him some extense or something

He should talk to his primary doctor and proceed from there

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There’s this company called Roman that makes little strips that you wipe on his penis before sex and it is guaranteed to make him last longer. If you wanna try that out

Have sex more, have him masturbate and work to extend his time…

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My ex was a minute man, but quick on the rebound, I would get him off orally then he would do things for me then once ready we would go at it, it helped. Just keep going at it be patient and understanding when a sexdrive diminishes due to meds it takes a while to come back. Lots of foreplay helps also if you are unsatisfied learn to use toys, as a couple.

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He needs to see a doc

Maybe have him wear a condom? Cut back on how much hes feeling

Talk to his primary care physician. They should be able to help and if not they should refer him to someone who can. But if he’s done in a minute then he’s taking care of. Get a little creative try toys, oral, and/or some hand actions to get you to the finish line.

Be patient. When I was at my lowest with depression, my sex drive was non existent for at least a year or so… Have him talk to his doctor about what he could do, and/or start seeing a therapist. Things will get better, I can promise you that. It may not be immediate, but he’ll get there

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One thing is sure. The more you do it the longer he’ll last. Its called building stamina!:wink:

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He really needs to see a doctor. But until then, invest in some toys. You guys can use them together. The right vibrator will work WONDERS. Once you orgasm then let him jump on in and get his. Good luck.

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More four play and sum toys!

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The more you have sex the more you build up… Also when he gets close tell him to stop and then y’all figure out someone how anyways your comfy with keeping it going and then when his build backs off go at more. It’s what my husband and I do, we get it going and then when he gets close we stop get some foreplay in and then go back to it… helps alst longer and the results are amazing :rofl::rofl::rofl::grin::roll_eyes:

There are Erection supplemental vitamins that are non habit forming that work well :slightly_smiling_face:

Not sure if there’s a lot of men in here. But, exercise and diet are huge, especially in recovering from depression or emotional trauma. Eating properly portioned meals, and exercising at least three times a week for about 30 minutes. Also, his body is still rebounding from the pills. Just let him know you love him and you’re there.

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Second round? Third? Etc

Maybe have him get himself off or u help him out like an hour or half hour before y’all do it - then he’s released but hopefully can get up again and it will take longer for him to climax the second time

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Time to focus on foreplay. Penetrative sex isn’t the only way to achieve pleasure :woman_shrugging:t2:

If you’re worried about something medically then talk to his primary care physician.