My husband and I are not intimate: Advice?

My husband says the reason we don’t have sex is that his libido is low. He says he never feels like it. He masturbates all the time, though, and I notice every time he comes to bed. It makes me feel unwanted. My self-esteem has really plummeted. How do I deal with this? I’ve talked to him about it, and he says he does it because it helps relieve stress. Anything will help

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His libido isn’t low if he’s masturbating all the time. Is he watching porn?
Sounds like he has an addiction to masturbating.
If he’s watching porn then he’s got a porn addiction.
Sorry my ex was the same way.
Seems like he needs help.

Slap his hand away and ride that Johnson.

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No advice, just letting you know you aren’t alone. I deal with the same thing.

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Hes cheating or thinking about it. Most likely has become addicqtd to porn. He doesn’t wanna do anything with you because he has gotten used to unrealistic porn and your just too real for him… went through it with ex husband. Don’t blame yourself. Whatever you do. The problem is with him.

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I’ve always had the higher sex drive in a relationship . It sucks when you want it and they don’t.

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Honestly depending on his age…his testosterone could be low…just because he’s still masturbating doesnt mean he doesnt love you anymore…talk to him when y’all are both calm. Ask him to please see a doctor and let him know how unwanted you feel. Maybe go to a counselor as well. If he is rude and doesn’t reciprocate after the talk,you may have to seek further actions… wish you luck

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Cheat on him with his best friend and/or brother.

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I wonder if they just want to get off without having to go thru the motions of pleasing a partner

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Sex is exhausting even if it’s fun, masturbating is easy and quick. Maybe he doesn’t feel desirable either, make the first move and do all the work possibly rather than assume you’re the problem :tipping_hand_woman:t3:

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On to the next boo boo :+1:t5::100::arrow_right:

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Pleasure yourself… Let it be known.
Make him feel the same way.

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Girl… You need to move on

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The straight answer… if he can get it up he’s either cheating or no longer attracted to you. Sucks but most likely the issue.

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Maybe he’s having erectile issues. He might be masturbating to experience the orgasm, but doesn’t want to have sex for fear that he won’t please you. I highly suggest an open dialogue with your partner. Best of luck!

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He’s cheating. Dump him.

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Men are selfish …even if they have erectile dysfunction then can please their wives and make them feel loved and desired…

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They are either no longer sexually attracted to you or theyre getting it elsewhere. Im in the same boat unfortunately😔 if you aint getting it from your partner you can at least please yourself or move on to someone who will

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Ask him about giving you oral or experiment with toys maybe spice it up 🤷

I’m surprised how many people jsut day to leave. That should be a very last resort.

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