My husband and I have been fighting a lot: Advice?

And my husband has been in each other’s lives for ten years; we will be married this Thursday for four years. We were great at the beginning, but for a while now, we’ve been going back and forth. We fight all the time as he calls me names, belittles me, and yells pretty bad or punches holes in the walls. Well, we’ll be good for a bit, and fall right back into a bad rut, never fails. Our son (4 years old) has seen as fight sometimes now, and just this past weekend saw his dad yell at me, and he went to crying, saying he didn’t want daddy yelling at me… We told each other that if we kept fighting, then it would be over, but we still stay, and I feel like he’s only staying because he wants us to be a family. I want us to be one too, but I’m torn on what to do. Just tonight we fought again, and he said he has doubts about our future and I told him I do too.

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Your child deserves to know what happiness is like! Dont just stay together for him! It’s not fair to anyone!!

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I think a separation needs to happen. You both shouldn’t being raising the baby in such a toxic environment

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Sounds like you just need to give him a good fucking!

THERAPY… COUPLES COUNSELING

break the toxic cycle

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If you can’t talk without fighting you could try writing down how each other feels and exchanging letters to read on your own then each write a reply and what you think you could each do to help make the relationship better for the family have to try all avenues

My ex-husband used to punch holes in walls. It only gets worse if he doesn’t get help now. You need to go to see a Christian counselor. Try going to an Apostolic Pentecostal church. If you two truly want to make it work, God will save your marriage if you seek him. Desperate times call for desperate measures

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Have you tried taking a vacation just the two of you to see if why you fell in love to begin with is still there? Maybe a consistent date night is needed?My fiance and I have been together for 11 years and we don’t fight “constantly” but we sure fight, often enough. But we have found that having a consistent date night once a week, has helped tremendously.

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Move on, no excuses he’s a bully.

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You think he’s staying because he wants to be a family? I know tons of woman would love to have that! Deep down, what’s the fighting about? Important fights? Stupid fights? Can you fix what’s wrong? Only the 2 of you knows, good luck

Run! Your child/children should never see that!

COUPLES THERAPY!!!
It saved my marriage

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The Love Dare Fireproof

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Move on, you have a child who doesn’t need to grow up thinking it’s ok for men to act this way!! Save yourself and your child. You will one day when the time is right find a real man. They are out there!!!

Don’t give up on ur marriage not sayin what’s happening is ok but all marriages have bad times and good take a break from each other and give urself time to c if u miss each other and clear ur heads and think hard then try some couples counseling 10 years is a long time to give up on try everything u BOTH can that way y’all have no regrets! Best wishes

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Couples need to respect one another. If you can’t restore respect you will resent each other and things will get worse. Your son is learning from watching how you interact and he will grow up to have difficult relationships. You can still have arguments but without the name calling. .

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My son saw some things when he was younger and I can tell you this, it will always affect them! My son used to defend me and stand on something to make himself taller. Children shouldn’t be seeing their parents throwing tantrums!

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Put him in his place and whoop his ass!! Lol

If he punches holes in the wall you gotta go. Bottom line

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I think you both would benefit from therapy.

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