My husband and I have no sex life but he watches porn: Thoughts?

What do you do when you and your s/o have no sex life, yet he’s always on porn sites, playboy sites, jerking off. I get that all men do it, well most. I get it’s natural. The only reason it bothers me is it makes me feel ignored or that I’m not good enough, and I don’t turn him on.

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Ask and tell him you want it

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I’m sorry, but I don’t think that’s normal at all:(

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You need to get up in there and play out some of them scenes together…everyone gets in a rut…just personal experience though so I don’t know

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He can’t read your mind , tell him you want his cock! Maybe he thinks you don’t want him too

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Watch it together :woman_shrugging:t3:

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You get used to it and learn to plz yourself . I was on bed rest and pelvic rest my entire pregnancy and that’s what he used to please himself and now that we have the baby he continues to watch it and doesn’t try to have sex with me anymore. We have had sex one time in 12 weeks but yet he is always watching porn.

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I dont see why he needs to watch it when he has the real thing at home. Try and seduce him let him know you want him

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get yourself a sex toy? maybe watch porn? use your fingers​:woman_shrugging::woman_shrugging::woman_shrugging:

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Do you try to initiate sex at all? He might feel like he’s the one doing it all the time which makes him feel rather unwanted.

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That’d piss me off I’d sit him down and ask him what’s up

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I don’t find this weird at all, if this was my situation I’d watch porn with him. I’m sorry this bothers you though. I hope you can solve your issue.

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If he is watching porn yet ignoring you it is a issue!

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Its not normal is he is not having sex with you. Something is wrong.

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Communication. Figure out why you have no sex life, and what each of you want/expect. I hate when men use “well all men do it”. Because they all don’t.

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More communication? Some studies suggest that porn can actually harm sexual relations if it is watched in eccess… maybe express how you feel to him, if he is in the relationship as much as you are he will be willing to try and find ways the two of you can make it work. It’s an awful assumption but they also say if you are being ignored sexually his attentions could be elsewhere. Hope it goes well for you :heart:

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Wild idea talk to your husband explain yourself and how you feel brain storm ideas

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If my man was watching so much porn that I felt neglected, that would be a HUGE problem for me and maybe ultimately a deal breaker? You should be his number one so he better act like it. Speak up and dont be afraid to say exactly what’s on your mind. Men are dense as FUCK!

I don’t think it is normal at all. Porn is terrible and ruins marriages all the time. It should be avoided. I definitely wouldn’t start watching it yourself. Communication is huge. You should both definitely sit down and discuss the underlying issue.

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If he’s not turning you on then you should try turning him on. Buy you a sex toy and use it in front of him if that doesn’t make him stand to attention for you file the paperwork

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