How do I help my husband stop doing drugs? If he’s not willing to stop for his family. It’s even worth staying with him. Every since his been doing drums, he has disrespected me calling me names. On weekends he is gone all day and night till the next day! He always wants to go spend time with his friends or help them or do things for them but never does things for his own family. I don’t know how much I can take. I don’t know if I have the courage to leave him and take my kids after being together for ten years. Do I need advice?
Ok here is the deal you can’t make or help someone stop. They have to realize they have a problem and it is up to them if they want the help or not. Your husband has to want to stop and change for himself. If he is not willing to realize he has a problem and that it is affecting his family then I say yeah you need to leave. You need to think about what is best for the kids. Kids shouldn’t be around someone that is using and does not want the help. So what is your favorite holiday? This page is for my favorite holidays…
You need to leave. Your kids need to know that drugs are NOT acceptable and that him calling you names is not acceptable
You already know the answer to this. I was with someone heavy into meth YEARS ago. The best thing I ever did was get away from him and not let him in my sons life. Later on I found my husband. You can find your happiness too. It just takes courage❤️
People will only get help when they want to. No amount of reasoning will make them stop. My children’s father is an alcoholic and I got to the point where I couldn’t take any more. No amount of telling him “think of your children” would help. When he’s ready, he’ll get help. Take your kids and go. It’s not easy but it’s better than having your children in a toxic environment.
You are silly to think he will change and is that the life you won’t for your kids leave him now
I gave mine a choice drugs or me and his daughter. He’s still very angry about it, but he’s the one who chose drugs…I however found my wonderful husband and now have a wonderful son too
Take your kids out of that environment or risk them following in the footsteps of their father or worse…he will abuse them
He has to have consequences for his behavior
You are the mother! Do this for your peace of mine and your kids future; even if you move to another area
A relationship is suppose to make you happy, secure, loved, up lifting, supported and much more. Do you feel those things?
If not for yourself. … don’t let your kids grow up in that kinda environment!
So my boyfriend who I’ve been with for 10 years in January has smoked pot the whole time were together…I don’t smoke anymore but I use to… When we first got together he was blowing Coke and I told him it’s either me and our daughter or the coke… he chose us and stopped… if it’s anything more serious then pot I would 100% talk to him… Tell him that he needs to stop or else you’re taking the kids and leaving… Sometimes telling him and actually talking to him about it and your feelings might make him change
as hard as it may be you need to leave him, and explain to him it’s either drugs and your friends or us, don’t let him have his cake and eat it too or this new lifestyle he’s adapted to will never change, you want it to change you have to change it, either he will man up, get his shit together and come home or you will have to be strong and move on, you will feel at peace when the fear and worries he puts on your kids and you will go away.
Formulate an exit plan. Determine a safe place to go. Go to AA support meetings. Put your kids first.
LEAVE HIM AND DO NOT LOOK BACK. He is not doing what he needs to for his family. One day he might even hurt one of you or worse. It’s not worth staying with him. Until he can get clean and get his act together, and truly show that he can be better, leave him.
Leave. He will only stop if he wants to stop. I’m an ex drug addict and I only stopped when I wanted to and my husband was the same way. He stopped when I got pregnant and we haven’t done it since. It’s not worth the heartache I promise. I would just leave. You can try to talk to him but you can’t make him stop. He will only stop if he wants to.
Why in the HELL would you subject children to this environment ?? Have him arrested & get out while he’s in jail
As bad as it’s gonna hurt, u have to leave. If u don’t he WILL NOT stop. As long as u are there and putting up with all this, u are being an enabler. He needs help. Physician help. Nothing u can say or do will change what hes doing. I say give him an ultimatum, stating that u want return until he gets help… With the exception that if he is in rehab and doing well, u will still support him. Like morally, and letting his kids communicate… But if not…? If he refuses…? Leave. It’s the only way YOU and ur children will be safe and happy. I’m sorry that u are in a bad situation, but it seems that u are gonna have to take control if u want it to change?
Drugs are common destruction of the family structure however each addiction is different. What type of drugs are you referring to? Dependent upon the drug for some intervention work, for some counseling, others hitting rock bottom and sadly some nothing. Most people are self medicating there usually is a reason. No one here can definitively give you instructions on your life and situation, only advice and suggestions. Research the type of addiction, if you love him past all the bs go to counseling or try intervention. Walk away if you have to. My best advice is do what is best for you and only you know that answer. If you chose to walk away most people will tell you he will get clean if he loves you and the children… in theory they maybe correct however there are deeper elements to addiction. May God bless and guide you on your journey
I was with my wife 36 years married 26 things happen to where you have got to make a move for you and your kids. If he does not care enough about you and your family to give you his time and love it’s time for you and your kids to go, yes it will hurt it always does but it may just open his eyes and maybe you will get back together. Good luck sweetheart and God bless you and your family.
The more u dwell on it the harder it gets .its just best to go somewhere else n figure it out cayse while ur there y wont he wont let you think of ur kids