My husband does not help me with the kids or around the house: Advice?

Hello, today, talking with my husband about how things are going in my house and between him and me, I ended telling him I’m not happy in my marriage. All he does is work and play video games. We have three kids together. I’m staying home mom he is in the military I left my country my life when I marry him, and now I feel like I just follow him, back to the conversation he told me that I hadn’t done anything for my kids just because I’m not bringing home any paycheck. But I do everything, and when I say everything is everything clean cook bath/bedtime playtime outside time all by myself because he is too busy playing games… That hurts me a lot because I’m not perfect, but I think I’m doing my best to keep my family together, and now he makes me feel worthless as a mom. Any advice? I left the conversation because I want to cry but not in front of him….

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I hate when people think that just because one parent works outside of the home, it means they get to stop parenting. He is their parent too! He should be helping in some way when he gets home from work. He can play or do homework with them while you cook dinner. Or he can wash dishes while you give them a bath. Whatever works to make things run more smoothly. Then play his video games for a break. Just be honest with him. Tell him they are his kids too. And in order for you to do what’s necessary for everyone, he needs to lend a hand when he’s home. Your work is not less important or invalid. You KEEP THE FAMILY RUNNING! Good luck Mama! You’re doing great.

Would you ever want your children to be in a relationship like yours?

Would you want your children to be the parent he is?

I hope the answer is no, i think you know the answer is no
& if he is not willing to even TRY, then you need to do what’s best for your children’s future
& your own happiness! Leave.

Big Brothers and Big Sisters. Go get some pamphlets about their services. Leave them out so he’ll see them. When he asks why you have those tell him, " We need a Father Figure for our children". Yeah it’ll cause another fight but worth it. Leave that slug, already.

Big Brothers and Big Sisters. Go get some pamphlets about their services. Leave them out so he’ll see them. When he asks why you have those tell him, " We need a Father Figure for our children". Yeah it’ll cause another fight but worth it. Leave that slug, already.

Yeah no that’s ridiculous. He is their father. If I were you I’d just stop doing everything. He gonna learn to appreciate you and all that you do. Being a stay at home mom is hard. We don’t get breaks. If it were possible I’d tell him you’d like to switch roles. You go to work and come home and relax and he can stay home all day doing EVERYTHING. Fuck that.

Im confused Your lucky enough to stay at home with your kids and have to maintain the house and them and your complaining WOW I too have to take care of my three kids and maintain a home and I have to work 40 hours a week at a job The kids The house that is your job So do it Sorry Dont feel Sorry for you After you heed all the advice and decide to leave him and have to really do it all on your own Youll see how easy you had it

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Wow that’s so sad he needs to get off his self entitled high horse and be a parent as well u may as well be single ur already doing it by urself!!! Doesn’t matter if u bring in a paycheck or not it takes 2 to raise kids. They need to see their parents work together and do things as a family or they will grow up thinking that it’s alright to treat people that way and think they do not need to participate in parenting rolls… u desrve better!!!

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Add up how much for a housekeeper and a full time 24/7 nanny and tell me u dont save the lazy butt money

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Throw the whole husband out and get a new one

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Call around and get prices on daycares in your area…tell him you’re looking to get a job (since he seems to think money raises children) and these are daycare prices.

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I hate this for women. It’s a partnership and one clocks out the other job doesn’t but to start seeing it as ur worth is less bc u dont bring in money. That’s bull to me

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Sorry I’m being angry for u

My husband owns his own business and I stay home with the kids.
I do inside house work/cook etc.
he keeps the property mowed and cleaned, does all the work on the cars, and plays with the kiddos whenever he’s home and has the chance.
We basically split everything 50/50.

Does he pull his weight elsewhere and video games as a hobby?

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Call a daycare find out how much it cost. Then tell him how much he will have to pay for daycare and your getting a job. So you can make money. He will change his mind pretty quick.

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Girl make an exit plan id also find job give him daycare bill

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Bringing home a paycheck is not raising a child. It is not being a parent. Sorry not sorry. But he needs to get off his high horse and be the parent. The partner. Not just the money maker.
He can be thrown away. So much more to being an actual parent than bringing home a paycheck

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Talk to him about it and if that doesn’t work, find a job, save some money and leave. He’ll have to pay child support so you’ll have some money for daycare. Good luck to you.

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I was in the same situation, the best decision for me was to come back to my country, he was ok and even got the tickets, he was military as well he is working at a air force base as civilian. Its very hard but unfortunately he came from a very sexiest family and he was very sexiest, machista, he knew i wanted to work again. At the end we are still going through a divorce in Ohio and i found out there is international child support as well, so im doing it too as i was left to be a single parent its better to do it just for my kids and not for a grown up guy plus feeling that my 24/7 work wasn’t worth it.
He got me depressed and even made me believe his mental problems were my fault.
You dont want your kids to believe the way he treats you its ok and then they behave as their dad. I wont let my girls think a woman has to be the maid in the house when all the members of the family are capable of doing their part

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