My husband doesn't help with the kids or the house: Advice?

I’ve been with my husband for four years. I had a child from a previous relationship when we met; she was three at the time. We now have another daughter and a son on the way. When I first got pregnant, he suggested I stop working and be a stay at home mom. I reluctantly agreed. Since then, things have gone so far downhill. I’m now pregnant again with a one-year-old and a 7-year-old. My husband worked a lot since he’s the only breadwinner and was still struggling. As far as our marriage goes, we don’t get along anymore. I feel like everything is on me. I’m the only person who cleans cooks goes to doctors’ appointments school functions… yet these are the only things I am allowed to do. Every time I’d like to do something fun with the kids or have a date night suddenly, we can’t afford it. My husband also has a unique way of ruining every holiday birthday party or family get together. He picks those days of all days to be the biggest jerk so that 9/10 we don’t end up participating. He absolutely does not pull his weight at home or with our kids, and he has zero sympathies for me being 37 weeks pregnant, tired, and in pain. He still expects me to take care of everything, just short of wiping his ass. I love his hit at this point; I’m exhausted mentally emotionally and physically. Talking to him about his/our issues does nothing but start fights. I feel like I’m out of options.

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After all of these posts…

I guess the thing i take away most…
If ever i get in a relationship, don’t ever quit my job, and become a stay at home mom.

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If you feel its beyond talking may be time to get out

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Dont stress mama have your baby. Thats all you need to do right now. I know its stressful but just focus on yourself and being soon to deliver.

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He’s a deadbeat and it doesn’t get better.

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I’m a stahm… It’s difficult. But stahm do deserve a break. Talk, communication. Give chores for the older one. If you cook dinner every night have your hubby help clean up afterward. Especially with a new baby coming, more responsibility is coming and it’s not 100% on you. If he makes the money, that’s great. But he’s also responsible for helping with the household. I have 3 kids and a husband, .and I tell them I’m not their maid. They will help. I’m not a maid. Chores will be done and my husband will help with some laundry and help cleaning after dinner. It’s also important to get one on one time with your hubby. Try to get that as much as possible. Good luck mama

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I would say bye bye bye

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In my opinion I feel like it is becoming a toxic relationship for everyone and you and your family don’t deserve that so I would leave him and live a happier life

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I woulda read about narcissist… sounds as if he could be one, if so, I suggest read all you can to learn what it is like being in a relationship with one, it’s not pretty and will become far worse with time…

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Sounds like he is suffering from anxiety and possibly ptsd. Is he willing to see a therapist(

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GET OUT before you have even more kids . Sounds like he just wants to keep you barefoot and pregnant

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Divorce or marriage counseling

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Omg sounds like my life!

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I could have wrote this myself.

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Mother of 6 and been dealing with it for 8 years…

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Are you married to my husband? For real! Everything you said sounds just like my husband. It’s been 6 years for us, everyone ask why I’m still with him my answer because I dont want him treating someone else this way and that’s the truth! It’s hard head up love! You have a baby on the way have someone keep your youngest one day and lay in bed the whole day get your time

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I read an article not long ago that asked men if they were actual partners in their marriages or if they are just living in the same house with a mother and her kids. If all a husband does for his family is financially provide, he can do that living somewhere else.

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Take a break and do what you want to do! Regardless of what he has to say about it. Find your own sitter and just go

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Have a sit down and suggest marriage counseling. If he is super against it, then leave and file for divorce. Use the resources around you to help you get out and on your own. It’ll be hard, but at least you’re not expecting and then being let down

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What you allow will continue. If you want to do something with the kids, then do it. Make a date night, have everything planned and the money for that separate. If he refuses to do the date, then you see what he’s on. Cleaning the house and all that, is kinda on you if he’s working like crazy. I think he should still help, maybe ask him to complete some chore. If it’s still not satisfactory, or he still complains no money, then go back to work and expect the chores to be split.

We moved and I agreed I would stop working and do the sahm thing… I’m more of a worker. My youngest is 5. He works insane hours, but he makes 6 figures. And he still helps clean and cook. Actually, he is the one that cooks when he’s home, he’s a lot better at it lol.

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