My husband had an affair: Advice?

A little back story! My husband and I have been together for 14 years and have two amazing children. I found out a few months ago that he had an on and off again affair with one of his employees for two years (he ended up quitting and going to a different company, and she actually moved almost to the other side of the world. It ended about four months before he even told me, but yes, he is the one that told me), I chose to work through it ( something I swore I would never do!). Since then, things have been absolutely amazing! He’s been going out of his way to show I can trust him(like snap chatting me at the gym, turning the location on his phone to show me he’s where he says he is, planning romantic getaways, and no, I didn’t ask him to do these things. Anyway! One of his employees claimed today That they have been having an affair in the building, outside the building and hotels (One of the night she’s claiming him and me were actually out of town at a hotel). She told his boss this!his business has cameras everywhere inside the building! his boss asked her specific times and dates of these occurrences, she claimed all kinds of sex in the business place, and when his boss checked the cameras there was absolutely nothing happening and other employees were around, she couldn’t find any footage of them alone. His boss didn’t see anything inappropriate and didn’t see him anywhere near her. He told me immediately! But because of our past, it puts a knot in my stomach, and I don’t know what to do.

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Once a cheater always a cheater

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There’s nothing to do since obviously she is lying. If the boss found nothing then there is nothing.

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Idk i don’t fk with cheaters. Cheat once, dont care how long the relationship, Im out.

Cheaters tend to cheat again.

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I don’t blame you for being freaked out, but it sounds like false allegations. He should sue her since you have evidence contrary.

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There is nothing. There is evidence that shows they were never alone plus you said it yourself that one of the nights shes claiming they were together, you and him were out of town together.

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I’m sure there is more to the story with the co-worker. Sorry, but once a cheater, always a cheater…

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Hmm, I could never trust someone again if they done that to me… I’d leave them fuck off tbh! I think if they done it once theyl do it again. If theres no trust what’s the point jano?

If you moved on from the past, leave it there.
You have proof he didn’t cheat again, so if you’ve forgiven him of the past, don’t let this hinder your progress

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Now did his boss tell you himself that he didn’t see anything from the cameras or did he ( your husband) tell you this? Sounds like he’s trying to deflect somehow. Why would the employee risk her job to tell the boss something like this if it isn’t true to some effect.

I’m hoping it’s not true at all but that’s a lot of red flags there.

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If neither of you want to get a divorce, then it comes down to marriage counseling.

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Lol so she’s making this all up for no reason…just to spite him? Doubt it. Especially considering he’s already done this within the workplace.

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It sounds like in this case, she’s just spouting nonsense. But I understand the uncertainty, due to your past. Is the information coming directly from your husband? If you know any of the women at the company I would ask them if they’ve heard anything about it, just to confirm the story. It’s remarkable that your husband told you about his affair himself and is doing everything to make it up to you, that’s a really good sign. But it’s totally normal for you to feel the way you do, too, and you should do what you have to in order to feel secure.

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If the employee has reported this and you know he’s not doing anything (ie. you were together and no video to show he’s doing anything), you should ask him what he’s going to do about it. He should be going to HR to have it taken care of and in this instance, if I were in his shoes, I’d demand she be terminated.

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Well if the boss didn’t see anything and he told you about it right away, I think the cunt is lying. There are a lot of weirdos out there, this just hit a little too close to home for you, riled up old feelings.

Sounds like she wants to cause problems with you two because she may secretly want your husband. And sounds like he was zero interest so she is causing some problems. Or he may have turned her down and she got upset.
Personally I think she should be fired for
Making such lies up.

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I’d have been gone the first time and not put myself in the position for him to make a fool out of me again. You chose to stay. He is likely cheating again. Why would this woman make it up?

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she probably knows the history and is just saying so to get a kick or for you to leave your hubby so she can sneak in there… if you forgave your husband and stuck with him then you need to be the one to shut her down. “listen I know my husband is a good catch but back the fuck off before you catch these hands”

My fiance and I have been together for 11yrs last year he cheated on me both physically and emotionally and ended up leaving me for a little over a month which caused me to go into a deep depression almost ending my life. I seeked help and we both have worked on ourselves and our relationship for the past year and I just gave birth to our 2nd child. We r stronger now than ever before.

I wouldn’t sweat it until there is actual proof. There is a lot of crazy ladies out there that would do anything to tear people apart.

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