My husband has bad hygiene: Advice?

I have been married for four years. Everything was good at first, but now it doesn’t seem that my husband wants to be clean. He works 10 hours a day outside working with forklifts and only showers once a week. It has begun to take a toll on our social life. I’ve had friends comment on how dirty he looks, and now I don’t want to be seen in public. I’ve told him countless times. My sexual interest is O at this point.

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Is he depressed? I’d be more concerned about my husbands mental health status than “friends” opinions.

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I definitely wouldn’t allow him to have sex with you until his hygiene improves. You’ll get an infection.

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My first thought was depression too. Especially if you’ve talked to him.

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Have you talked to him about it? I’d have a gentle conversation. He’s not a mind reader and might not know how you feel.

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What??? Um, no. Works outside? I’ll say a special prayer for you :heart:
Lordy lordy!

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Sounds like depression

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He might have depression

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Ask him for sex in the shower

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I totally understand, unfortunately, mine is the same, he’s just never had good hygiene. I’m very open with him about it and he puts some more effort in but it’s like it doesn’t come naturally to him at all

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I know others are laughing and being immature but this sounds exactly like depression. It’s not funny

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tell him to wash his ass or hose him down…thats pure laziness not to be clean

Is he just exhausted??? Feels like there is no time?

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Sounds like depression. Get him some of those dude wipes (that’s actually the brand name) and gently let him know that they are there for him to use if he doesn’t feel like showering.

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It may be depression like others say. He could also be super tired after a long day. Try showering with him and washing him. It’s a sweet and intimate way of being there for him during a difficult time.

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Please no sex. Infection waiting to happen.

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please for the lobe of god and saftey, dont have sex with him until he washes…at least wash his monkey first…youll get infections

Depression can cause this to happen. Has he lost interest in other things as well?

What is he doing once he gets home.
U Could say that u will get tea on the table while he takes a quick shower. Bit of encouragement

Being ur husband I would honestly talk to him,

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No washy, no sexy… Honestly, from what you say, I wouldn’t want to be with him. Total turn off. (all seriousness, I’d be so turned off, I’d check out and we’d be roomates).

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