My husband has been rude to me since I got pregnant: Advice?

I am confused. Currently, eight weeks along and my husband is so rude to me. He has four kids of his own, and when we met, I was 28 weeks with my youngest. He treated me like a queen when I was pregnant with my last child, but this time around, he is just awful. If I fell asleep with the latest baby, he would let me sleep and care for my older two. Now, if I dozed off, he wakes me up, usually rudely. When I tell him that I am not feeling well and need help with our 18 months old, he gets upset. Often calls me lazy or makes side comments. Before we were married, he was amazing. Then we get married, and it’s a whole new man. I wanted to wait to have a baby as our last one is only 18 months, but he would get so upset and fight with me every time I would go to the doc for my birth control. I just don’t understand. Any advice? I don’t want to continue going in this way, but I don’t want to give up on the family we have committed too. Help!I am confused. Currently, eight weeks along and my husband is so rude to me. He has four kids of his own, and when we met, I was 28 weeks with my youngest. He treated me like a queen when I was pregnant with my last child, but this time around, he is just awful. If I fell asleep with the last baby, he would let me sleep and care for my older two. Now, if I dozed off, he wakes me up, usually rudely. When I tell him that I am not feeling well and need help with our 18 months old, he gets upset. Often calls me lazy or makes side comments. Before we were married, he was amazing. Then we get married, and it’s a whole new man. I wanted to wait to have a baby as our last one is only 18 months, but he would get so upset and fight with me every time I would go to the doc for my birth control. I just don’t understand. Any advice? I don’t want to continue going in this way, but I don’t want to give up on the family we have committed too. Help!

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Have you tried asking him and what was his response?

Try sitting down or if you can go on a date and talk to him about it

Well that’s your 18 month old, not his. Soooo…

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Sounds like your both confused… you should LITRELLY tell him straight how things have been and get your answers from him right there and then from him… i don’t know if its goin to be hard to hear or relieving… but either way, you have to make the right choice from there… for you and your kids

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If the current pregnancy wasn’t planned, maybe he isn’t happy about it. Not an excuse for his nasty behavior but maybe that’s why. Definitely talk to him.

Sounds to me like he’s overwhelmed with now even more responsibility being heaped on. Did he want another baby? Did he not, and you did, so you went with what you decided to do? Cause, I know that isn’t really kool to do to someone.

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Sounds like an asshole. I’m pregnant with my third and it was unexpected. Total nightmare. The guy is an abusive asshole and we live 50 miles apart. Some days I wish I’d never wake.

We dont know. You need to ask him.

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So there are 5 kids in the house? He may just need your help. He could wake you up nicer, but he’s probably stressed and needs help too.

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A men liked that dont sleep with me no more

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He needs a swift kick in the ass that jerk!

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He’s sounds selfish, rude and mean!!
He won’t change!!
Take care of You and Your Kids!!
Screw him!!

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So this pregnancy is baby #8? Holy crap. And he was kind with 7 children then became a jerk after marriage? :thinking:

Talk to him! Then ask him if he will go to couples counseling. If not then you go for counseling alone. Whatever is going on won’t get fixed if you don’t talk to him first

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This behaviour sets off alarm bells, for me. It seems, Now you’re married and pregnant to him, he feels you can’t / won’t leave - as though he has you permanently tethered to him, through your unborn child.
I’m not sure I’m the best person to give advice, but if that rings true, seek help asap.

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Hormones? Red flags already? U can do bad all by yourself… Good luck jus b careful n get out before it gets worse or to late :pray:t4::wink:

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What is it 2nd martiage

Maybe hes having an affair. Hes acting like a complete jerk!!!

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I’m kinda gathering that you’re a stay at home mom. I’m guessing he works, he’s prob just tired… Nap when your kid is napping, or just power through… but you definitely do have to do your part. Not saying he doesn’t have responsibility to help watch your children together, but sometimes love is about making yourself uncomfortable to help out someone you love. It should be mutual, you know?

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