My husband has been talking to his ex girlfriend: Advice?

Hi, mommas, I need some major advice. I recently found out my husband of almost ten years is texting & talking on the phone with his ex-girlfriend. He says he isn’t doing anything wrong. But there are way too many contacts through the phone to make me think & feel different. I have asked & demanded they stop talking, but that hasn’t happened. I’m so lost & confused on what to do. We are still under the same roof with our kids & sleeping in the same room. I have tried multiply times, asking him to go see a therapist with me, but he declines every time. I still love him & want to be with him if he just stops talking to her & we can get back on track. I believe this ex of his has no clue on what is going on between him & me sexually & nonsexually. That she thinks we are completely split when we aren’t at all. How do I get him to realize that he’s got to stop this & how he is hurting me & make her realize she needs to leave us alone & that he isn’t truthful to her. I’m the only one that knows this is going on & it’s killing me inside. Any advice is greatly appreciated. This is the first time that he has ever cheated on me. I don’t want our family to be split. I want to try everything I can do to keep us together before I have to throw that towel in & call it quits. Thank you, ladies.

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Tell her and leave him

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Once a cheater always a cheater. Sorry but it’s very true.

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If he isn’t willing to understand your point of view and respect your wishes, then I’d leave. He obviously isn’t going to stop no matter what you say or do.

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Message her and just make it clear. Ask her to tell you if she has been lead to believe otherwise.

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Yeah but can you ever trust him again???

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He doesn’t care, probably wants you to leave him instead of him leaving you. He obviously has no respect for you or your marriage. She owes you nothing, he does. And, even if he says he’ll stop talking to her he’ll actually just try to hide it better. Might as well get your stuff together and leave.

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That’s not acceptable at all. Talk to the ex about it. But the truth is HE is your husband and should respect your feelings more than she should. If you’re uncomfortable with something, he needs to fix it. If he doesn’t want to stop, then it’s not worth saving this marriage.

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If he can’t see what he’s doing is disrespectful to you and your family… it will never change and you need to leave

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He isn’t going to change girl. He doesn’t respect you. Time to put on your big girl pants and Move on

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I would contact her and talk to her… if he gets mad oh well… you asked him nicely now you take matters in your own hand

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He knows. He just doesn’t give a shit. Sorry :pensive:

Seems like the feelings you’re having aren’t mutual. Sorry :disappointed:

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I would go confront the ex face to face and flat out ask her how long they’ve been talking and if anything else has been going on. If she truly has been led to believe that y’all are separated then she’ll tell all and if she knows y’all aren’t seperated then she’ll say something snarky. Then go from there don’t be a door mat for a man girl respect yourself. If he wants his wife and kids he’ll stop before it’s too late

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I’m sorry. But you can’t make a man see what you see. You just cant. He either sees it now, or he sees is after you leave him. There is no in-between

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If he doesn’t man up and stop acting like a fucking idiot, then he’s a piece of shit and deserves to be kicked to the curb! If a man truly loves and respects you, he will listen to your feelings and stop being a dumbass.

The fact thats it even happening shows hes lack of respect and devotion he had towards you and the kids.no man who cares and loves hes family would do that kind of disrepect.

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Contact her and put her straight that you are very much married WITH KIDS TOGETHER and ask about the conversations they’ve been having. Also try and find out why she thinks it’s acceptable to be talking to him as much as she is. If you can’t get through to him then you can try and appeal to her to get it to stop. Then you need to have it out with him and put your foot down! :pensive: How effing disrespectful! He’d be pissed if you chatted to an ex boyfriend that much I’m sure!

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He’ll resent you for giving him an ultimatum.

Reach out to his ex and tell her the truth. Expose him for the liar he is.

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